Should I take my sister on vacation with me?

Question

Okay well I am 21 and I have a son who is 1 and a bf who is 25. We are going on a vacation to Texas and to mexico next summer. I was thinking about taking my sister who is 17, but the problem is our relationship is very rocky. She is dealing with lots of issues (teenage stuff), she will not allow for no one to give her advice, for example, over a week ago she was at my house for my sons party and I told her how to put him to sleep because she was watching him and she told me to shut up! I was p*ssed, but everytime I try to explain to her that he is my son and I know what is best for him, she will start to yell. Also she trys to flirt with my bf. She has pretty large b*****s for being petite. She always trys to wear very very low tops and then trys to put them in everyones face including my bf. She is also constinley bringing up how large her breast are. The way she talks is inappropriate. I do love her and I want a relationship with so bad, but I am scared she will ruin my vacation and possibly our relationship more. I am hopeing that this will bring us closer together. I went to Mexico 2 years ago and I loved it and I really want to show her what I have seen. Our mother passed away and so has her father so my brother and I are the closest family besides my grandparents and others. I don't know what to do, can anybody please please give me any advice. I feel like I am stuck in between answers.

Answer 1

Your sister has issues of her own that need to addressed. She needs professional help. lt's the best help you can give her.

Better not take her along as she might do something inappropriate (based on your story). lt could ruin a good vacation and leave everyone frustrated.

Answer 2

I'd say...no. Don't take her with you on that vacation. You're going on holiday to relax and have fun with your family, but if you spend the whole time arguing with her (and possibly with your boyfriend too, because of her) you won't enjoy yourself much. Just give her time to mature and overcome her issues; it's a process no one can control, but she will probably eventually change so, don't fret. Forcing a situation like that will only lead to frustration on your side and apathy on hers.

Most of all I would suggest you try to show her that you're not worried that she's flirting with your boyfriend (this is SO inappropriate), that you're not even jealous, and it would help if your boyfriend does the same thing. Just disregard this kind of behaviour as childish and immature and she will eventually realise it's not that ''cool'' to put her b*****s in everyone's face.

Most of all be patient, and understanding, since you're older. It sounds like she hasn't had an easy life. Good luck!