Should I talk to the Principal?... bec my son got an ave.of 93 but he wasnt able to be on top of their class.

Question

my son is in prep, he got an average of 93 on the first grading and he wasnt able to be on top in their class, while their top1 got 93.25 and top2 got 93.10... my son got dissappointed, bec. everyday when he got home he would always tell me that he did or does good in school, shows me stars (marked), and most of the time he got a perfect score with his exam, quizes and seatworks, so when i got his report card i really can't believed that he wasnt able to be on TOP. I asked the teacher why? but the reason was, the prep pupils are only 13 and they will only get TOP 2, why they dont consider my son to be on top 3 since his average was 93... My, point here was, my son is only in prep, he is doing his best and i am so thankful bec. i can see him moldinng (alone, with my guidance) the foundation of EDUCATION... if they will continue that policy they will putting the students down instead of helping them build a good foundation. SHOULD I TALK TO THE PRINCIPAL RE: THIS MATTER?

Answer 1

No, life isn't always fair and not everyone is special.  Disappointment is sometimes a fact of life.  If this school accepts two top positions, then they accept only two top positions.  Deal with it.  If it is that important to your son to be in the top of his class (and good for him for working so hard), but he will need to work harder.

Answer 2

He was outscored, but there certainly is no shame in a 93.  There are students who are outscored with a 99.8... someone comes along and makes a 99.9 or a perfect score.  All schools have a cut off point.  Continue to encourage and prasie your son, but don't over stress him with being too competitive.  It' really not about scores at all.  The truly well rounded , oustanding student is more than about academia anyway.   There are more factors to be considered.  

Those who are admitted to the top ten universities have outstanding scores, leadership ability, community involvement, charitable work, etc.

Answer 3

Top 2 means Top 2.  They shouldn't have to change their rules.  Your son did awesome and should be happy he did so well.

Answer 4

I thought this was the Special Ed section?  this doesn't sound like a special ed problem to me...

Answer 5

Hi!I think yopu may start with explaining to your child what the teacher has told you.That would help him understand more of his standing in the class. and that being on top doesn't always mean he's the best. You said he is matured in his age, so I think a little assurance from you will help him regain his self-esteem.

As for talking with the principal, Parents can ALWAYS do it...BUT don't forget that you shouldn't sound like you wanna change their policy...though you're suggesting. Inform him/her of what your child has told you, then communicate with them of what you can do together to solve it..God Bless! :)

Answer 6

Whatever for?  Your son has proven himself to be an excellent scholar.  Yes, he is disappointed, but isn't that part of education too.  He can't be #1 because of a small percentage of a mark.  He came close, but not quite close enough.    

As his guide - and his parent, teach him to accept the decision with grace.  He'll be a better man for it.  You don't want him ruining his health for the sake of a mark (another person's opinion of his worth).  He is a son to be proud of.  Leave it at that, please, for his sake.

Answer 7

Honestly, you'll probably be seen as an overreactive mom.  This is their policy, and though he worked very hard - and did an excellent job - two other students also worked very hard.

Is the foundation of his education based on what place he gets, or is it based on his mastery and understanding of skills that will impact his future?  

I really do understand where you're coming from - my son is much the same as yours - but this is a conversation that I recently had to have with him.  If your son bases his accomplishments solely on how he ranks against other people, he will either be sorely disappointed when someone outdoes him, or he will spend his life pushing himself so hard that he doesn't enjoy anything about what he's doing.  Both of these options can be very detrimental.  

And honestly, he's only 13.  He can choose to be very upset about this, or he can set himself a goal for next year and strive to achieve it.  There's a difference between competing against your own goal and competing against others.  

I hope that helps?

Answer 8

Your son having an average of 93 doesnt mean that he tops the class. Even if he has an average of 98, it doesnt mean that.

There might be a man like you whose son is averaging around 95. So, he becomes a topper!

Answer 9

No, clearly they have a policy and just because your son tries hard and got disappointed is no reason for you to pitch a fit to get special treatment.

Encourage your son, take him out for a special celebratory dinner, but don't become *that person* who bullies people to get their way.

Answer 10

if they put your son on top, what happens to the other two kids who did better?

be satisfied that he was third in his class!  thats still really, really good!