Should I tell daughter she broke a fake?

Question

My daughter earlier today in a burst of insanity cut my pearl necklace when I said she and her cousin could not go to an unsupervised party. Well at the time I thought she had destroyed my $200 necklace and told her she would have to pay for every penny it cost. I looked at it again and found that she just got the $10 one that one of my friends daughters gave me when I was pregnant with my other daughter. She is still grounded for 3 weeks regardless but should I tell her it was a fake should I make her pay me $10 and then just cut her money until she would have been given $200. How should I do the monetary punishment? Help apreciated.

Answer 1

I agree with the 14 year old "cutie" the only thing is I would tell her the truth now and still make her pay you the 200 dollars to show her that she has to take responsiblity for her actions and money doesn't grow on trees, it takes time to earn money.

Answer 2

I think you should still ground her the same , of course.

And then make her pay for the ten dollars,

And if her act doesn't change and such then her allowance should be cut down a bit.

Like, If she usually gets 10 a week then she only gets 5.

That'll teach her the value of money.

Answer 3

Tell the truth. Paying the 200 dollars should happen anyway--she thought she was cutting the 200 dollar one, not the ten dollar one. Another option would be to ruin something special of hers--her IPod, for example, so she understands that acting like a bit** gets her nowhere, but further up s*** creek without a paddle.

Answer 4

ok im only 14 && of course im going to stick up for your daughter on her part. but i think you should make you pay her back the $200 && then tell her it was fake after she gives you the money but then give her the extra $190.So that way she knows what it is like to have to earn your money for nice things such as your real necklace.Hey..she can always go shopping w/ that $190.   :]

i hope i helped

Answer 5

Tell her the truth so that she knows that honesty is that important to you. Lead kids by example and give them the lesson of honesty.

Answer 6

I think you should tell her the truth and charge her the $10 the necklace is worth.

Why should she pay way more for it than it is worth?

Now the grounding - she deserves that for messing with your stuff in the first place.

Answer 7

if she has 10 bucks? then let her pay them although i kno my mother wouldnt make me pay it. let her go to the party bbt afterr she does go let her be grounded

Answer 8

make her pay the original amount. $200. it isn't the money, it is the principle. she took and broke something out of spite that wasn't hers. if it was $1 it still wouldn't matter. i wouldn't go back on what you said. i actually would tell my daughter " i found out that the necklace you broke was my $10 , not the $200. but you will still give me the $200, beacuse it was mine, not yours to break. mabey next time, you will think twice about losing your temper." if you feel bad about the money, save it for her until she asks for something then take it out of that. but don't tell her you are doing that. i definitely would not let her go to the party, and your grounding sounds good also.

Answer 9

I would tell her that you realize now that everyting has settled down, that she destroyed your $10 necklace and not the real thing. Tell her how lucky she is she grabbed the inexpensive one instead. She should still be grounded( you may need to sit ouside her window so she can not sneak out).

Good for you mom not letting her go to an unsupervised party.

Answer 10

Have her pay you the 200 because her intentions were to hurt you by taking something of yours that is valuable. I would also take something of hers so that she knows what it feels like. Hold on to the money. When she pays all 200 tell her the truth about having the wrong necklace. Tell her that the money will stay in your possession and she will EARN back her money. All excpet 10 dollars. When all the money is earned back, grounding over, lesson learned.....(and not 1 minute sooner)

I would than give back the possession of hers that you took as punishment.

Answer 11

I agree with the posters who suggested she should be made to pay $200 because she intended to destroy your nice necklace.  But what I would do, is set aside that money until it is all paid (and not having any money for that long would be a huge punishment for her)and THEN tell her the truth and give her her money.  She'll have to go all that time thinking she is out all that money, and when she gets her money back she'll realize just how lucky she is...not to mention that the time she goes without her money is more of a lesson in how much things cost than anything else you could do.

Answer 12

tell her the truth, and have her pay $10.  she should have to pay a least  to realize she needs to take responsibility for her actions...and of course the grounding is reasonable.

Answer 13

You did the right thing by grounding her. If the necklace had been the $200.00 one then she should be required to pay the $200.00 through allowance deductions or make up for it in chores and labor around the home. Since it isn't, you should have her pay the $10.00 and emphasize that she got off lucky...This time etc.,

Answer 14

I would charge her the $200.....because she obviously didnt know you had a pair of fake ones...and was being vindictive to ruin your real ones. Regardless, it was her intention. She needs to pay for it anyhow...because what if it were your real ones?? She'd be paying for it anyhow. Thats like saying "its okay, you can cut anything up of mine, as long as its cheap".

Answer 15

I'd tell her the truth, as well as make her pay the 200.00. She purposly tried to destroy the real one. Her intention was the 200.00 one. She got lucky and did it to the wrong one. So I'd punish according to her intentions. Call me harsh, but she was fully aware of her intentions and actions. She shouldn't get off easy because she was lucky enough to grab the 10 dollar one instead of the 200 dollar one she was after.

Answer 16

i am fifteen, so I can't tell you what I would do, but I can tell you what my mom would do....My mom would more that likely make me pay the $200 plus interest...I got mad at my mom for taking my bedroom door off the hinges bc i had been slamming it when i was angry...and I slammed the bathroom door, then opened it and slammed it again, and the door broke...apparently they are hollow in the middle....my mom made me pay for the door, the stuff to fix it, and the gas to go get it....and she grounded me.....I still havent got my bedroom door back, because she said I had to earn that back as well....I havent been slamming any doors tho.....

Answer 17

of course tell her the truth because you don't want her to lie to you if you do it her she will think it's okay to do it to you. but of course keep her grounded.

Answer 18

after she pays you for the 200$ dollar one she broke I might tell her then...

Regardless how much it cost , she distroyed something cause she was not getting her way... what if it had been the tv or your car.. ?

Answer 19

put $190 in the bank for her. she'll appreciate it later, and understand that destroying other peoples property is wrong.

i wouldn't tell her it was a fake. she didn't care what she destroyed, it could have been the expensive one.

Hear Hear! i say the punishment ought to stand!