Should I tell her how I feel...?

Question

I've made a good circle of on line friends this last six months and one girl in particular, I've shared all parts of myself with. I'm pretty messed up and she's the only one who can relate to the things I do and whats happened to me and from this our friendship has got quite intense.

I've never had someone 'get me' before and its been great having someone I can confide and vice versa but the trouble is now, I've become abit confused as to what I feel for her. I'm female and I've never thought I was g*y nor had feelings for any other women before and I just wonder am I really falling for her or is just the intensity of a friendship I've never had before until now.

I realise I'm the only one who knows the answer to that, my question to you guys is, should I tell her how confused I am over things or just leave it and hope I sort it out myself?

Answer 1

i think you should first sort things out with yourself. you dont want to make a huge mistake, then realize you didnt mean it. dropping hints is a good route to go down also. little things here and there could be a good indication about how she feels towards you.

Answer 2

If it were me, I would wait until I've sorted-out my feelings and know exactly how I feel before telling her. You'd be risking a friendship you seem to value a lot if you tell her beforehand.

Answer 3

Just tell her how you feel and the confusion you are going through. If she really is a true friend she'll support you.

Answer 4

Dont say anything untill you are sure. Are you sexually attracted to her too? If not then it could quite possibly be just friendship. Do you know what her sexual orientation is? If shes g*y then just come straight out with it and see what she thinks

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Answer 5

I'd sort things out in my head first and make sure of all I wanted to say. Ask yourself it is worth the risk of losing her as a friend over maybe gaining her as more.

I think you definitely need to talk to her though.

If she is a true friend and 'gets you' like you say she does, she'll understand no matter what.

Answer 6

You should try and drop hints, talk to her privately and confide in her, give her a short list of things that are bugging you (you said there were others) and drop 'sexuality' in there, if she takes that well then take it from there.

ultimately you will need to confront of her, but if you are in your teens like me then you may want to think about waiting, I'm 16 and my sexuality has jumped all over all the place...

Answer 7

Tell her (=

you say she's the only person who gets you so she would understand...

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