Should I tell my best friend I'm in love with her?

Question

I am deeply in love with my best friend. I never feel as happy as when I am with her, and I think she is the most beautiful, s**y woman I have ever met.

There are a lot of complicated issues. I am married, and so is she. We are all friends, though her and I were the first to meet, and we are the closest.

We are very good friends. We tell each other everything and hang out all the time. I'm also good friends with her husband, who I met through her, but she tells me things that he doesn't know and I tell her things that my wife doesn't know. We also complain about problems in our marriages to each other. We both get along much better with each other than with our spouses.

I don't want to hurt anyone. I like her husband a lot, and am still in love with my wife. I wish I didn't have these feelings towards my friend, but the reality is that I do. It's not something I can control.

I have told my friend how beautiful I think she is. She has told me I am handsome.

I am moving out of town at the end of this month. My feelings grow stronger by the day. I feel like this is a huge burdon I'm carrying around. I want to tell her how I feel before I go. I'm affraid of what might happen, but I also think that I'll regret it forever if I don't tell her.

I don't want to divorce my wife, and I don't want her to divorce her husband.. but still...

I'm not looking for judgements. Just advice. Thanks.

Answer 1

Wow! This sounds like a pretty tough decision.

Since you guys are best friends, you should be able to tell her how you feel about her. Just do it when its just the two of you.

Before telling her the big news said that do not freak out or leave. then make her pinky swear or whatever you guys do. and then tell her the big news.

i dont know how she will react but, lets hope you guys will still be friends.

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Answer 2

NO WAY.  In fact--I would do quite the opposite: stop seeing/talking/sharing your heart with her so much.  You will ruin marriages and lives here if you don't watch yourself.  

Falling in love IS IS IS something you can control.  If you let yourself--that's on you.  Unless you're willing to go through with it--divorce, wrecking families, etc.--keep quiet and try to see her less.

Answer 3

omg that is so sweet i think that you should tell her or you will never know if she feels the same so TELL HER