Should I tell my brother what I know ?

Question

My brothers gf is have there 3rd child ...

but it not really my borther child ..and she knows that and i know that but i dont want to ruin the relationship for the two other kids they need there father in there life and im stuck...

can you give me some answers???

Answer 1

I think that u should tell him! he has a right to know! U wont be ruining the relationship, his gf did that when she had s*x with another guy! If ur boyfriend were cheating on u and ur brother knew, would u want him to tell u?? as for his children, it might be a bit hard on them, get them to play happy families for a while until they no how they want to handle it!

Also what about the child his gf is having, is he/she supposed to go through life thinking someone is her dad, when hes not!

I hope this helps, and I hope u decide to do the right thing

good luck

Answer 2

Well, here is my personal view and u may not support this. Firstly, if u tell your bro now, are u sure he will believe u? if he doesnt, that will ruin your and your bro's relationship. Secondly, a child needs its father, it will be injustice for your bro to leave his two kids cause the third isnt his, but I guess that's what he will do. Third, both your bro and his gf's life will be spoilt. So, if I were u, I would have never told him. I mean, firstly, its between him and his gf, they should sort it out, and a third person interference can spoil things. second, if he finds out after a few years, he will be crushed, he will be angry with u, but within this time a love and deep bond will have developed between him and this third kid, so even if it isnt his, he wouldnt mind fathering it. Fatherhood is a feeling that can be felt even without blood relation, cause its a relation of heart. And if u are scared that when your bro finds this out he will be angry on u, then u are worrying too soon, chances are he will neevr find it out, and if he does, face him, and tell him u did it for the good of him, his gf and the 3 innocent kids. Good luck  

Answer 3

In front of ur brother's Gf, U ask ur brother indirectely the solution of this problem. ,

In place of ur brother, keep some of ur friend and the whole situation as it is, get his view on the problem and what solution he gives.

It will solve the problem and his Gf  will know the outcome of her illlegal relation.

Then after analysing his views u can decide urself.

Answer 4

I know you are stuck in the middle. Then again your brother has the right and should know. His girl friend should be the one to tell him. Confront her and tell her that if she does not fess up and tell him, that you are. He can still be a part of his kids lives, by supporting them and visitation. If she does not take care of them properly he can return to court and get full custody of them. It is not right that she lead him to believe that it is his child if in fact it is not. Someone else should be held responsible for medical and support for that child, not him. I hope this will help you make the right choices and do what is best for your brother. Good Luck.

Answer 5

You have to tell him bc if he finds out that you knew and you didnt tell him,he will be upset and if it ruins the relationship,it wont ruin the life of the kids.as long as the father can see his kids on the regular then it shouldne be a problem

good luck

bye

Answer 6

At some point in time, your brother will eventually find out if he notices there isn't similarity between him and the child. Truth is if he eventually finds out you knew about it all along and you didn't tell him, he will feel betrayed and not trust you anymore. I guess you should tell him. He might surprise you all and accept the child

Answer 7

wow! your stuck your in a bad place.. i see your point because if you tell him he will probably break up with her right? and then the kids wont have the father and so on... but really i would want to know if i was being cheated on i mean come on he thinks its his child but really its not that's sad, how would you feel if you were really in love with someone and they cheated on you and your brother new and he didn't tell you ???? answer that and you'll get your answer...

but i would tell him he really needs to know because when and he will find out he will blame you because you should of told him if he doesn't believe you then at least you tried right? but its a big call really because it can start some s*** but don't worry about the kids because if he loves them then he will always be a part of there lives..

well i hope you work out what for you .. i know i would be stuffed if i had to choose.. good luck and i hope it works out for you..

Answer 8

its better to tell him.. or first tell her girlfriend that she should be the one to tell your brother.. if she doesn't want to tell him you don't have any choice but to tell him yourself.. ask him to do not make a decision while he's angry.. he should decide it if he's in a good mood or in a better mood at least.. you should also tell him to think about their children first..

its there responsibility to think about their children..

he should not regret his decision afterwards..

Answer 9

No, it's not your place, as much as you want to protect him. Maybe he knows already and has come to terms with that. Just be there for him if it comes out and his is in fact upset. Otherwise...leave it alone.