Should I tell my family I'm g*y?

Question

I'm still struggling with if I should tell my family. I mean I don't think they would take it well but the comments they make make me very uncomfortable(they say thins such as "all those q****s are going to h**l" or things of that nature and when they do it makes me want to cry in fact sometimes I do. Basically they are stressing me out and they don't even know it. I'm just not sure if they would take it well?

I'm only 15 so I wouldn't be able to become finically independent though. I'm just really worried. I don't know what to do...

Any advice?

Answer 1

No, after hearing that you should already know your parents are against g**s. I would wait until you are 18 or until you can support yourself maybe get emancipated...

Answer 2

You should tell them regardless.  You'll be a stronger person for it.

Answer 3

i been there i wood wait let them ask you this is your life not there  

Answer 4

I know exacly how you feel. I am 23 and still struggeling with tellin gmy family especially because my parents are veryy ill at the moment aqnd I dont want them reacting in such a bad way that there heart wont be able to take it. I think you should wait until you can be financialy independent and then you tell them how you feel. My family also makes remarks about my kind and it hurts alot, but I really dont want to hurt there feelings. Its very hard for me too being that I was together with a man for 7 years and have a 4 year old, but the truth is that I was never really happy but because i question my sexuality for what others believe in I made kinda of a mistake. Be g*y, dont change for anyone and dont let what "ignorent" people say get to you.

Answer 5

maybe your just confused or bicurious, come on now do you really want to have a p***s up your ***.  

Answer 6

If you are still financially dependant upon your family, which it sounds like you are, and they are very anti-g*y, which it sounds like they are, coming out to them at this time is a BIG risk for you.  you may be better off waiting until you have less to lose, unless you know of someplace where you can go to live if your parents kick you out of the house or you know of someone to rescue you if they try to force you into an "ex-g*y" brainwashing camp or something.

That said, I realize that sitting around and listening to them bashing g*y people is stressful.  It will help you to find some sort of support outside of your family.  If you are in a big city, try the local LGBT center to see if they have any youth programs.  You can also find support online... maybe google:  <g*y, youth, support> Here are a few results that I just got from a search like that:

http://www.youth-guard.org/youth/

http://www.lambda.org/youth.htm

http://www.hcsm.org/glys/glys.htm

http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/youth/i...

You probably can find others that might help you.

Also, what American Transcendentalist said is good advice too:

"Meantime, if I were you, I'd try to spend more time at school, with friends, etc."

Good luck!

Answer 7

you could do what i did and just put pictures of dudes on your computer and let them do the math

Answer 8

you dont have to tell anybody, its your buisness, and yours only

Answer 9

If you do, make sure you have a huge support network that'll support you if things don't go well.  It's alright if you lose a friend if you tell them, but to lose your family would be horrible.  Make sure your friends know first.  Then, just in case, you'll have somewhere to go.  I personally wouldn't tell them yet.  After all, its none of their business, is it?  I know how it feels to finally tell people - its GREAT, but save it for some friends.  

Answer 10

well they wouldn't like it one bit, if they are saying things liek that. personally i think you should wait until you graduate, and move out and on your own, that's my plan for now.  

Answer 11

By the sound of it your parents are ignorant and bigoted and telling them at this time would not be wise. As you get older they will wonder why you don't show any interest in girls, and it will get more difficult if they can't change their attitude. Eventually you will need to move out and live your own life.

Saying things like "All those q****s etc." is probably in response to watching g*y parades or g*y marriage news on TV, and to be honest seeing 'in your face' displays of overt g*y activity can be offensive to conservative people of all persuasions – not only homophobes.

In time, you could try to educate your parents a little, by trying to show them that not all g**s are the same as they imagine; in fact their own son could be one without them even knowing!

Good luck, young man.

Answer 12

Do not tell them.  The hateful things they say are a good indication of the level of their intelligence and character--which means they'll never figure out, unless you tell them, that you're g*y.  So don't.  In a few years (less time than you think) you'll be out on your own, and it won't matter.   Meantime, if I were you, I'd try to spend more time at school, with firends, etc.  

Answer 13

nah man i think you should wait... its better to be safe at home and stay cool.. you don't know how they will act and still you are not old enough to go live by yourself..

just wait and as someone said try to spend more time with friends and in other activities you'll see that the time to live by yourself is not that far away...

good luck man