Should I tell my friend her former crush (who used her) is hitting on me?

Question

One of my best friends (lets call her Jenny) had the biggest crush on this guy (lets call him Tom). She slept with him a couple times, but he ended up just using her for the s*x. Afterwards, when she tried to call him, he wouldn't pick up. Later, she learned that he had told a friend that he just needed to get laid and that he didn't have any feelings for her. Needless to say, it was very awkward between them for a few months and of course she thought he was a big jerk. A while ago, they started talking again. She told me he started inviting her over to his place to watch movies, etc, but she didn't go. I think they do talk now, but she's not interested in him and thinks he's an a$$hole.

Anyway, recently, he started hitting on me. He invited me to see Wanted with him (in a theater) and I said yes, because it came up in conversation that I hadn't seen it and he said it was really good and that he'd take me to it. Other than that, he just comes on pretty strong with the flirting, etc. I have absolutely no interest in him, PLUS my opinion of him is not that high.

Anyway, my question is should I tell Jenny? I know she doesn't have feelings for him anymore, but there is always that THING. On one hand, I feel like she should know. Like it's my duty as a friend to let her know what he's doing. But on the other hand, I wonder if it will accomplish anything. I don't want to needlessly upset or hurt (maybe hurt is too strong a word here) her. It's not like she still likes him or is dating him so there is no reason why she NEEDS to know. For some reason I just feel that it wouldn't be completely honest of me not to let her know what he's doing. I feel like it would be only fair to her for her to be aware (but not if it would do more harm than good!!).

Let me just reiterate that I have no interest in him and never have. I would never even do anything with him as I do not find him attractive on even just a purely physical level. Besides that, I think he's kind of lame and just generally uninteresting and tries too hard to be cool.

Should I tell her?

I'm not going out with him and I'm friends with him to the extent that we have classes together and I'm not rude to him. Other than that, I'm not particularly chummy with him, and we've NEVER dated. That one movie was hardly a date. I made sure to keep things platonic. We went to the movie as friends.

Answer 1

tell her, shes your friend right? she needs to know then :\

Answer 2

I'd tell her, now you two have something else in common, you both think he's a weasel!  You can relate to her and she to you, this should bring you closer!  

Answer 3

i think u should tell her. she will trust you more in the long run. would u like for her to tell u if it would have been the other way around?

Answer 4

I see little reason for you to tell her that he is hitting on you unless you plan to do something further about it. You have the right to go see movies with whichever friends you wish and it makes sense that if they didn't get along you went without her, so I see nothing about that to get upset about. I wouldn't hide it either, though, because that might give her reason to wonder about it. Just be yourself and don't worry about it. If it really wasn't a big deal to you then it shouldn't be a big deal to her. the only time I'd mention that he was hitting on you would be if she was there and saw it. Otherwise I'd leave well enough alone.