Should I tell my friend that her husband is cheating with another one of our friends?

Question

A friend of mine is cheating on my other friends husband. I have been told by the 2 cheaters that the wife knows. Every time the wife goes out of town on her job these 2 cheaters are together. He is telling my other friend he is going to tell his wife but never does. I am troubled because of the fact that the 2 cheaters say the wife knows, but if I say anything I am afraid to bring on unnecessary embarrassment to the wife if she is trying to deal with things to save her marriage. The husband is telling his wife that he had ended it but the other friend wont leave him alone and he is the one calling her? I need a tactful answer on what should I do - or should I back out and wait for her to do something?

Answer 1

What you should do, is talk to your friends husband about it, tell him you know about it, and tell him if he doesn't tell her and try to work things out, then you will tell her for him. If he has any good guy in him he'll suck it up and tell her. The truth may hurt, but its alot less painful than deception.

Answer 2

Wow,Wow wait a minute,don't do anything,unless you are very informed. Do the right thing, don't get yourself in troubles!  First,if your friends husband is the one who is cheating, you should talk to him and tell him that you are going to tell his wife, because she is your friend and he is doing the wrong thing.This way he will know what to do and you are not stabbing anyone. But if you are not a friend of his wife you should not get involved at all.

Answer 3

Naw Sweet Pea...not your place, you will be blamed and hurt her, and she probably wont believe you anyway.

This is how you handle this situation... tell HIM that you know hes playing around and that you want to give him a chance to make it right. tell him HE must tell her about his affair(s) or YOU will.

Im a safe s*x nut and this fool of a man is playing with fire and bringing "whatever" home to his unsuspecting wife.

You must do something, but give him the chance to be the messenger of bad news first. (Ask yourself how you would feel if she got AIDS from him and his playing around, then how would you feel?)

Confusious say..."Truth without love is cruel"

check your motives and do the right thing.

Your hands will be clean, and she will know the truth.

Namaste

Answer 4

Wouldn't you want to know if that was happening to you.

Answer 5

Definitely do something. If she really is your friend you should do anything in your power to make sure she isn't hurting. A marriage is something sacred and what these two cheaters are doing to her is absurd. Sometimes you just have to take action! Approach her and gently tell her, face to face. I am sure she will appreciate your condolence in a time of such trouble for her. You will be a better friend and person for doing so.

Answer 6

I'd stay out of it.

Answer 7

tell her..and she can test him by saying that she is going out of town..she can go over to your house and then see if you can catch them in the act.

that is sad--and he should tell her but if he hasnt i think you should..face to face conversation--not on the phone. or by email.