Should I tell my long term "friend w/benefits" that I had unprotected s*x?

Question

A few weeks ago I went out with a guy, we were kind of drunk and had s*x after he said he was sure he was clean. I'm paranoid that I caught something and i'm waiting to get tested for std's in a few days.

My friend with benefits (since '04) is getting upset that I've been standing him up. I just don't want to hang out and maybe something happen and he catches something. Should I just tell him what happened?

Answer 1

u should

Answer 2

If you're clean, why bother?

If not, send him a cake.

Answer 3

are you using a condom with with your f.w.b.?

But he is a FRIEND with benifits and you don't want to put him at risk.

be honest, but tell him your getting tested, and when they come back negative [hopefully] you'll go straight to his place!

haha

Answer 4

You are doing the right thing by avoiding s*x with your benefits friend for now.  You're also doing the right thing by getting tested.  You may  want to discuss this with the folks at the testing center since some of the tests (like the seroconversion test for HIV) must be repeated again to be sure you stay negative since it takes some time after exposure to convert to positive even while actually carrying the virus (see the link below).

I'm thinking they would say you need to use condoms with your partner if you don't already.  As to telling your partner - if you have not been using condoms then you're probably gonna have to explain why you've decided to change your practice.

Lessons learned, drinking impairs judgement (s*x without protection) and a little paranoia is not a bad thing.  As you clearly point out, just because someone "knows" they are clean doesn't mean they are disease free - it usually means they've not noticed any symptoms recently.  

Answer 5

h**l NO!!!! Why would you tell him and then probably ruin what you have now.  Find out if you have anything and if you dont who cares.  If you do, give him a surprise.  It was really irresponsible of you to have an unprotected one night stand.

Answer 6

ya

hope i hellpd :]

Answer 7

yes you need to tell him.

Answer 8

Since the guy is just a FRIEND with benefits, you shouldn't even question whether to tell him or not.  Of course you should.  If there are issues of jealousy with you being with someone else, then you need to rexplore the "friends with benefits" status of your relationship. ;)

Since you have been intimate with him for so long, you owe it to him to tell him the truth.  If anything, he should be grateful that you care enough to 1) tell him, 2) try to protect him, and 3) are smart enough to get tested.

Please do not ever sleep with someone again without proper protection to prevent the spread of STDs.

Good luck.

Answer 9

No, you should just wait until you give him A.I.D.S. and then tell him(IM BEING SARCASTIC).> OF COURSE YOU SHOULD TELL HIM, Actually, fornication is a sin, so you outta ask God to wash your sins away with the blood of Jesus Christ.

Answer 10

Maybe you should wait until you get the results back, then tell him that you had unprotected s*x. If your neg., then he'll know why you've been flaking, and if your pos. you should still tell him for his own safety.

Answer 11

Yeah.

Answer 12

if u dont then ur messed up

Answer 13

i say have s*x with him anyways and if he gets an std from you... oh well.