Should I tell my pen pal I may love her?

Question

Hi, before you answer let me put all the information in. My pen pal is from Christchurch, New Zealand I'm from San Diego, California we have been writing each other for nearly two years nonstop sometimes I get 3-4 letters a week. We exchange holiday cards, gifts, photos, etc... This started as friendship and still is. But I feel we have so much in common. We both grew up with the same kind of childhood and I could never find anyone to connect on that aspect. We both grew up poor and without a father and we connect so strongly on goals and moving forward in life. I honestly don't know if I should tell my pen pal I have feelings for her. I don't want to scare her away. She invited me to NZ to stay with her for a few months. What should I do, should I tell her how I feel or keep quiet. We are both are single and seem to enjoys each others letters very much.

Answer 1

i guess u have to drop some hints...and not let it out suddenly...

if u get positive response ...go ahead...

let her know how u love writing to her...

and reading her letters...

something like that...

hope that helped

and i do agree with the 2nd ans too

Answer 2

u should totally go to new zealand and hang out with her and if it turns out that once u met her and dont really like her in person u can still enjoy new zealand

hope i helped

Answer 3

Yeah! you know each other, and you and her arent a threat to each other! go to nz and stay with her!, connect more and maybe a spark will happen ;)  

Answer 4

I wouldn't tell her yet, because although you guys talk a lot, sometimes it's different when you're together in person, so I'd go to NZ and stay with her and see if you still feel the same way. If you do, then maybe tell her toward the end of your visit, but even then I don't know if it's such a good idea because you guys can't be together because of how far apart you live, so it might just bring you both pain from wanting to be together. But you said she likes the letters too, so maybe she feels the same way and something will happen while you're there. I'd just wait and see, and if it feels right, then you can tell her, but only if you think she feels the same way.

Answer 5

go ahead do it!

since you guys have so much in common why not?

The worst thing she could say is no.

but if she does Just say Can We still Stay Good Friends?

But remember if shes rejects you, just dont be mean to her or call her a s**t, if you do you will probably lose a very good friend!

hope this helped!

Answer 6

well do you know her like seen her because if you feel that but you need to drop hints that you do and if she does then you can tell her that you love her

Answer 7

will anyone see the letter?