I have been abroad (in Europe) on business for 2 months and thus have not seen my wife of 5 years during this time - although our relationship is still great and we talk on the phone for an hour every day.
Last night, though, at an event, I ended up meeting this beautiful woman and we really hit it off. One thing led to another and she ended up sleeping over. We didn't have full blown s*x, but we made out very intensely and she performed oral s*x on me.
Now I feel really bad. The big question is, should I tell my wife?
My best friend, whom I asked about this earlier today, told me that the general rule of thumb is that if you only do it once, learned your lesson, and don't intend to do it again, you should not tell you wife, because it will cause much more chaos in your marriage than it's worth. I think I have learned my lesson and am very sorry.
So I would abide by that advice, except:
(1) I really value full honesty in a relationship and don't know how I will personally deal with having such a secret
(2) Because we had oral s*x, there's a chance I could have acquired some sort of STD. I would obviously feel terrible if I gave something to my wife - and if something does show up in a few months, I will have to explain somehow how I got it! (Although I could say it must be from before we got married, since I really have never ever been tested for STDs).
Any advice about the best way to handle this? Am I freaking out over something that's not such a big deal? Or am I a terrible person?
Thanks...!
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