Should I tell someone I like that "we should hang out sometime?"?

Question

So I have a huge crush on a guy I know is g*y, but have absolutely no idea whether or not they like me... is asking this question a good way to gauge whether or not he is interested in me?

We are not out, and we are in high school

I am so nervous, should I do it?

Answer 1

go for it  

Answer 2

I think you should do it, but I don't think it will necessarily tell you if he likes you or not.  It is a good way to find out though (hanging out with him that is).  You've got to use the subtle cues - how he looks at you, if and how he touches you, what he says, if he's excited to hang out or finds excuses not to...  Things like that.

I suppose though, if you ask him and he's hesitant, that might be a bad sign, but it's not like jumping right to asking him out, which would definitely be chancy and potentially embarrassing - I think it's a good idea to go on and ask him to hang out.

Good luck!

Answer 3

That's actually a very good idea. You can spend a day together and find out exactly how much you have in common and if it's worth it.

Just be careful not to get so caught up in taking baby steps that you never get anywhere.

Answer 4

Why not??? The worst thing he could say is no, which would not end the world as we know it

Answer 5

just kinda hang around him(no like stalker just like say hi,ask to be a partner in class kinda thing),then ask if we should go to a movie or to hang out(unless he asks you) you should be fine

Answer 6

yes, you should say that.

You guys should hang out, catch some lunch, don't go to the movies: too boring. Don't go shopping: then you'll only be a friend.

Just go somewhere nice.

Answer 7

Well if you're sure he's g*y, I would go for it! I mean why not? Go to the movies or do something fun and just spend some time together so you could gauge whether he likes you or not. Just asking to hang out isn't like asking him to be your boyfriend so if he declines, it will be less awkward.

Answer 8

sounds like you have a very casual way of making a friend, who might turn into something else.

smart line, but you have to follow-up with a plan.

Cool, do you like xxxx, then on saturday lets xxxxxx