Should I trust again or just let go?

Question

I had been very close if not best friends with this guy for about 4 years. Three months ago we started dating. I thought I could really trust him. But, he has another friend (girl) that he is also very close to. She is also one of my so called friends. Every time he hangs out with her (when I’m not around) he manages to do something that I don’t approve of and he knows my feelings about it. But, each time in the past he told me about it and I would forgive him.

About a week ago he did it again and lied to me about it. I found out by them accidentally leaving a voicemail and I overheard them joking about how he lied to me. I do love him as a boyfriend and a friend. But, I am very hurt by all of this. He seems like he is very sorry. I don’t know what to do? Should I give him another chance? Should we go back to being friends? or should I just leave him alone? Right now I’m not really talking to him or my girl friend. I was friends with her for over 12 years. Please help!

Answer 1

Before I go on, I'm going to assume you're not a psychotic over controlling ***** to her boyfriend. No offense.

You already knew the answer before you asked the question. You want to be friends. How do I know? The way you phrased the description sounded both bashing and protective of both persons.

I want to question WHY he bothered to talk to the other girl in the first place. I mean sure, he can have his girl friends, but what was it exactly that pissed you off? The flirting? hugging? some sort of act?

I really hope at the end, when you decide to just be friends (or perhaps i'm wrong and you'll have to choose one of them), you won't find out that he went out with your friend secretly.

GL with your choice. All the best!

Answer 2

Neither one of these people are really your friends.

Your “boyfriend” was cheating on you with one of your friends, lying to you about it, and laughing it up with her about the situation. It can’t get much worse than that. He is showing absolutely zero respect for you. More than likely him being “close friends” with you for that long was simply an attempt to get in your pants. This guy is not worth your time or effort.

As far as your girlfriend, she is just as bad. She is backstabbing you by hooking up with your boyfriend. She is not worth your time either.

They deserve each other, so let them go on with their “relationship” and find some new friends that don’t treat you like garbage. You deserve better.

Answer 3

you should forget about him

if he's gonna lie who's to say he wont do it again?

or that you'll be able to catch him next time?