Should I trust my man?

Question

I've been with him for two years now and things are getting bad, I had came out of a 10 year relationship with a guy that I had been with since I was 15, and started a relationship with my man straight away, he moved in straight away and things were great, I thought he was great because he was so nice and good to me which flatterd me as my ex boyfriend was really nasty to me. my boyfriend spent most of his time with me over the last year and a half and was so nice we were always talking having a laugh and barely argued, now he's always going out we hardly talk or have s*x and always bicker and argue, when we do talk it's about things that have to be said like what do you want for dinner or it's about the kids, he lies to me now, even about silly things and I always catch him out, not that I try to catch him out it's him that forgets what he says and trips himself up, he tells me nothing and I find things out from his mum, I don't ask her, she just says things in conversation, I so want to trust him and try and make it work but I don't know what to do, I've had a very bad life in the past and thought that things would get better, when I try talking to him about the way things have gone he says that i'm just being paranoid because of the way my ex treated me. Does anyone have any advice!

Answer 1

Follow him. He's cheating, and probably with someone you know and trust, or a co-worker.

Answer 2

the best answer is from a person that knows less about the indepth details of your situation.

I havnt read your description i dont need too cos the answer is universal.

Do you trust your man, should you trust your man. Would i trust your man.

Its all the same,

The answer is you should not trust too much to anything and always make sure you can do well of any situation.

In a relationship you want to live in a trusting enviroment that is clear.

Now the only thing i can sugest with your man is do you trust him if theres any area bring them up honestly with him in a calm collective manor, dont wait for anything to go wrong then bring them up cos that can look like irrational behavior.

One day when the mood is right it could go a little like this, "hello love how you doing kiss kiss, is all ok, yeh i`am fine but i had a thought today are you into someone else? no ok love just wondered.)

Good luck theres alot of bad out there but still a few good.

Answer 3

the signs are there.Always out,argue and hardly have s*x.Are all signs of cheating.When a man is seeing someone else they get to the point where they want to argue and he has to have s*x with you sometimes to keep you from thinking he is cheating.Next time he trys to go some where ask to go and see what happens.Try getting a babysitter and try to start doing things with him.If he is actually cheating he may stop.

Answer 4

Trust is difficult,try talk it out with him

Answer 5

Move on until you are ready for a mature relationship, not based just on s*x.

Answer 6

i went through the same thing (as the guy) u should really just sit down and really talk and try to work this out tell how u made u feel and how his making u feel now  

Answer 7

It seems that you've gone from one bad, long term relationship right into another without giving yourself any recovery time.  And this one doesn't seem to be any better.  You can't rely on anyone to make your life better, only you can do that.  Think about what YOU really want.  Maybe you need to be single for a while and sort out your own life before you enter into a relationship again.

Good Luck

Answer 8

Good advice is to think it out and maybe seek a professional counsellor, not get cheap advice from here.

Answer 9

you need to have a very serious chat with him - explain what you've told us here to him and let him know you're not joking about things when you tell him that if he doesnt cop on and try and meet you half way that things are over

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