Should I try talking to this guy again?

Question

I met a guy my senior year, and to make a long story short he liked me but I didn't believe he did and didn't know how I felt, so I just played cat and mouse with him, then I realized my feelings and I wanted him...to no avail, so flash foward a year later, he's gonna leave for the Coast Guard and we hung out for the first time ever. After that night, I thought he still liked me so I wrote him a note telling him I liked him but he never replied back. It took me a long time to get over him, and during that I texted him saying it was sh.tty how he lead me on, to which he denied it. And I haven't talked to him since, that was like....at least 6 months ago? Well I'm just wondering, do you think he'd remember? Do guys hold grudges? I just want to start over because I REALLY REALLY miss him and his friendship, but I'm afraid he might think I'm still trying to date him. Should I reach out to him again or let it be?

Answer 1

Okay.

First off do you REALLY want him as a friend?

Do you think you'll start fancying him again?

I would definitely let him be. He flirts with you non-stop and leads you on, causing you to write the note and be confused and annoyed when he doesnt reply.

*You wont like what im about to say here*: you say that it took you ages to get over him, but you were still texting him?! by texting him you give the message that you want to talk to him and thus build up a relationship with him.

Ive had a similar problem, but i had this guy-friend who flirted with everyone and, i admit, led me on. He got a girlfriend which really annoyed me. But carried on flirting with everyone. Anyway I decided I didnt want to be one of his little flirty girls so i decided to stop being friends with him. It was hard because we spoke soo often but after deleting his msn and not texting him for about a month or so it worked and we havent spoken since. It was well worth it and it embarrases me still that I was led on that easily.

Please dont be like that. If you become friends with him again, lets admit it, you WILL start fancying him again and think he does too and write a note..itll just go round in a loop!!

Leave him after a while youll find better friends and someone more worthy of your time who wont mess you around like he did.

Hope I helped :)

Answer 2

it seems to me he never really cared. You need to move on and find someone else, you will eventually get over it