Should I try to contact him?

Question

First off, I'm a guy. My best friend, who is a girl, recently got a boyfriend. Ever since then she has been really mean to me. Ignoring me and she even called the police on me recently, because I wrote her a letter asking her why she was treating me this way. Anyway, I can't contact her at all otherwise I will get in trouble with the police now. However I had an idea that maybe I could try to get in touch with her boyfriend. I think that maybe if we had a man to man conversation about her maybe he could help. All I want is to have her as a friend again and it really hurts that she is doing all this to me. Does this sound like a good idea? I can't get arrested or anything for talking to her boyfriend can I? By the way all three of us are in the 18-23 age range. And are off at college and whatnot.

Answer 1

Yeah, you could try to contact him.  

Answer 2

You cannot do anything.

Forget the past episode with her.

When she dumped you without giving reasons, what is the use of going her behind.

Why do you want to cut sorry figure with this type of illegal and unwanted relationships.

Answer 3

Let it go, find another friend. She got a restraining order against you, she does not want to be your friend. Move on, and if you can't move on, seek professional help.

Answer 4

I am sorry this happened to you. Let me tell you this is not an easy thing.

Several years ago I had a best Friend who was a girl. We were neighbors and she and I were terrific. We went to ball games together to the zoo, just had all kinds of fun.

Then one day she told me she had a boyfriend and that she couldn't see me anymore. Her BF felt that I was a threat apparently and she felt that she should end our "relationship".

About 4 months later there was a knock on my door and there stood my friend. Crying her eyes out and I will give you one hint what she was crying about. If you guessed she was pregnant and that her boy friend dumped her when he found she was pregnant you guessed right. She of course wanted to continue our friendship and that she needed me.

Although I must admit it was the hardest thing in the world to do, I told her flat out No. I said a Friend doesn't dump a Friend just because someone else is in the picture.

You may wind up having to tell your Friend the same thing I say that because I can see the same thing happening to your Friend that happened to mine.

In my opinion it is best to just let it go. A Friend is a Friend for all time. Not just for a day or for a month, but forever. Your Friend apparently doesn't believe in that.  

Answer 5

That is a very bad idea. She got a restraining order? Whether it was warranted or not, if someone doesn't want to speak to you, I say listen to that. You will not bring her closer by contacting her boyfiredn when she doesn't want to be contacted. What do you think will happen? D oyu think her boyfirednw ill say, "Gee. She got a restrainig order out against you, but I think it is best if I force her to connectw ith someone she doens't want to talk to."? Separate yourself from her, no matter how painful that is, connect with your other friends, and give her space. If she contacts you, than you can talk with her, for now now, she is making it very clear she doesn't want any connection with you.

Answer 6

Don't.

He could be a major psycho and call the cops on you, too.

It's best you leave these people alone. She's not much of a friend if she is calling the cops on you.