Should I visit him at work

Question

My 17-year-old friend (casual lover) got taken into foster care on June 23rd because his mom became an addict and he started using as well. He's bi-polar and has to have his blood tested every so often to make sure his meds are okay, but when they tested his blood they obviously found the small cocaine and casual marijuana usage.

He's in a foster fome and not a treatment center, in Flint, MI.

To make a long story short, he claims hes not allowed to call me or hang out with me until hes out of foster care on sept 21, which would be 3 months total without seeing him!

Anyway, Saturday night (2 days ago) he posted a bulletin on his myspace saying he got a new job at mcdonalds and posted the address of the mcdonalds.

Question: should I visit the mcdonalds to say hello for 5 minutes (please keep in mind that I miss him SO much!) ..or should I wait-it-out ANOTHER 6 weeks before i see him.

I dont understand why he just couldnt call me from the mcdonalds or his foster home. I didnt even know they took 17-year-olds into foster care.

Anyway, any advice would be welcome. What's the worse that could happen if I visit him at mcdonalds?

Answer 1

To be honest, I think it's best to just leave him. He sounds sort of like he's going downhill...

And don't visit him...because I think there's a policy which says they're not to be distracted from work unless it's a serious personal problem (family)

Answer 2

If he is saying 'No', then don't visit him at work.  This is called 'stalking'.  It's creepy.

You are allowed to e-mail or call him (unless he asks you to stop).  I know it hurts, but there is probably some reason that he doesn't want you to see him right now.  It could be that his ego is hurting...or it could be that he's uncomfortable with the relationship he has with you...or it could be that he's not taking his meds.  Regardless of the reason, you should respect his wishes.

Answer 3

yeap go see ur guy

buy a meal and stay awhile

but make sure its on his break time that way he doesnt get in trouble with his boss and u2 can talk 4 a bit or what ever you got in mind

x*x

lol

Answer 4

Worst that could happen is he could get fired :P.

But seriously I don't think it should be a problem to visit him - have you still been in touch with him though (by internet or phone)?

Answer 5

in my opinion he is giving you the brush off.......

trust me i know the signs and like you said if he was thinking of you just as much he would have found a way to contact you. sorry to be so harsh and i truly hope it works out.

Answer 6

Sounds like a lose lose situation for you; either he is not in good shape or he has found someone else and is trying to dump you, and from what you write, it sounds like the latter.

Answer 7

Kids are taken into foster care until they are 18. With this, you have to follow your heart. But, if you can find out why he isn't allowed visitors or phone calls that would be better. You don't need to get in trouble and you surely don't want him to get in trouble either.

Good luck to you, I hope you get to at least talk to him soon.

Answer 8

sorry, don't interfere as a matter of fact time to move on.

trust me on this..    get the heartache out now and move on with your  life.. because his is over  now.

Answer 9

The world could end. No but Yeah well now seriously i think you should wait, it's best to be cautious