Should I wait for HIM to come back? or is it time to move on? ?

Question

Sorry it's long but I need more perspective please & thanks.....

I am a single mother of 2 and I met a younger man aged 25 who seemed very sweet and loving towards my children. I wasn't looking for anything too serious at the start and told him so but he is very assertive and within a week, he was suggesting marriage and babies and within 2 weeks, we were living together.

He's from a wealthy family in the Philippines but left the family business to pursue his own "dreams". He arrived in my country on a Visitor's Permit due to expire this coming October.

He asked his parents for money to study in my country - they agreed, then somehow, things changed and they withdrew their support. He's was pretty messed up about it so in the end, decided he would go back there and take out a mortgage against his OWN properties to fund his tuition and residency.

We parted on good terms at the airport, he was sooo reluctant to go but PROMISED he would come back within 6 weeks. He also made me promise not to see anyone else while he was away; I asked him to do the same.

Well, it's been 3 weeks since he went back to the Philippines to sort out his residency and find money (he needs $20K as International Student) for his tuition. He phoned me the day after he arrived in the Philippines, we talked briefly but then we got cut-off. The cellphone number I have for him is only good in my country so I can't reach him.

Should I wait for him or is it time to move on? Thanks to all :-)

Answer 1

He got into the country on a visitors permit, after meeting you for 1week he talking about marriage.... marriage is one way he can become a citizen quick... sounds to me like he wanted to do this to stay in the country

Sorry for the harshness but thats what i get from reading your situation. You only knew him for 2weeks...i'd move on.

Answer 2

It does sound a little fishy... But, I would wait the 6 weeks. It's only 3 more weeks. If you haven't heard from him then, it's time to move on. He may just be very busy.

Answer 3

MOVE ON

Answer 4

u  should  move  on

Answer 5

Uh, is that 3wks + 3wks, or just 3wks?

It's up to you but waiting 6wks (at the time you promised) isn't exactly a dating death sentence.

Answer 6

Hi Sweetheart

I think one of the most important thing is your children and how you truly feel about him. Do your children get along with your boyfriend? Is he a good role model for your children? Does he make you happy and are your feelings for him deep enough to have faith to believe that he will come back to you?

Also what you need to think about is the financial situation if you and him get together can he assist in supporting yourself and your children? If there is finanical trouble do you have a plan that will ensure that you and your childrens financial well - being is safe?

It really is up to whether or not you won't to take that risk! But make sure you have a plan if everything doesn't work out!

Good Luck xoxox    

Answer 7

It sounds like he may have moved on.  Do you really know this man?  His family wealth and his background sound fishy to me.  He moved in on you and your children much too quickly.  You should absolutely forget this man.  And don't let anyone get that close to your children that quickly.