Should I wait to have a second child with my boyfriend?

Question

I am living with my boyfriend and our two year old daughter, and we want to have another child, so they can be close in age. I am a full time college student and will graduate around the time the baby is expected. But unfortunately our families do not get along and I know that they wont like what i want to do, but i really want to get married and have another baby and complete our family. What should i do? Should i wait longer to make my family happy or just do it now? How would i break the news to them?

Answer 1

You should do whatever makes you happy, because at the end it will be you and your husband and the kids as a family, and your family wont be that involved. AS far as telling your family be straight forward with them, its your life and you should do whatever makes you guys happy, and whatever you guys think is right.

Answer 2

You're a grown up, you shouldn't let your family decide your life decisions for you.

Whether you're married or not your family's opinion of your boyfriend is either going to change in time or it's not.

It wouldn't hurt to sit down and talk to anyone who has issues with him, if they can talk rationally ( hear them out see if they see something bad in him you're blind too) but if they just don't like him explain it's your choice and if they love you they'll accept him.

Answer 3

I think it would be great to have another child at this point, so that they can be close. Who cares what the in-laws think? They aren't going to be pregnant and then taking care of a newborn, you will. I would say, just make sure that you can finish your studies and graduate in time, you wouldn't want to be so close to graduating and then not graduate because of 1 or 2 credits you weren't able to finish. This is completely personal between you and your boyfriend, don't worry about what the other family thinks, they won't be supporting the baby anyways and if they don't love the baby then they don't care for you or your boyfriend. Go ahead, plus you are young now, might as well do it now while you are healthly and at less risk. If you know you want to have another child, you might as well do it now, so that they aren't too far apart!

Answer 4

Wait, just wait for a while at least till you graduate or something. Get marry first and its not about making your family happy, if you think having a baby now , have it now but if you will happier having later after you more stable, married and everything. Have it later, you bf can wait, he aint the one who gonna give birth and everything.