Should I worry that my boyfriend doesn’t say “I love you” to me?

Question

He told me he will take a bit longer to say it maybe because of his previous traumatic relationships. My friends keep telling me that i should dump him because that isn’t right. But we talk about moving in with each other and we are taking a trip together. We also have talked about if we get married and such. I don’t know what to do. Can you guys help please.

Answer 1

Your friends need to relax. It is OK that he hasn’t said I love you yet. Maybe he’s not yet ready for it. Some people are ready faster than others, and he is probably feeling especially vulnerable after his previous relationships went bad. Give him time and don’t pressure him about it. Eventually it will come out naturally. Just have fun with him and forget about it. If another year goes by and he still hasn’t said it you might need to start worrying.

Answer 2

If he shows you how much he cares about you, then don't. He just needs to take babysteps to heal from that traumatic relationship. Just hold on to him, and wait for him. He'll say it eventually.

Answer 3

no its not weird at all i don't think you should dump him either just because he doesn't say i love you as long as he shows that he cares and loves to be around you who cares about the words just give him a little time he'll come around and say  those 3 words (:  i no this isn't the exact same thing but my family doesn't say i love you all the time but i no they care and love me  because they show it :)

Answer 4

worry more about his actions, if he shows that he loves you, then who cares about those 3 silly words.

Answer 5

you probably shouldn't get married if he doesn't love you :s how long you been together? sometimes it just takes people a long time to be able to say it even if they feel it :) i wouldn't worry for now but i wouldn't get married to him until he can say it? :) just my opinion.

Answer 6

No need to worry! A lot of guys are afraid of saying it cause once they do, it's a permanent fixture, traumatic experiences or not. Give him the time he needs and it'll happen! Of course with all the moving in together and marriage talk it's only natural! Hope this helped!

Answer 7

STOP!  Dont ever pressure someone into telling you they love you.  Are you willing to get a dishonest answer?  He is a guy, he kknows you want to hear it.  When he is ready or means it he will say it.  Dont listen to your friends, they aernt in the relationshsip.  Dont move in together either..just continue seeing eachother, taking trips, etc.  If he dosent say it within a few more months, bring it up casually.  After letting himknow you are concered about it and giving him time and he still wont say it, then you have a case.  Id rather a guy take a longer time to tell me and it be sincere than have a guy throw the word around because he is supposed to.

Answer 8

if he doesn't say i love you that means he don't love you or his just starting to learn to love you. i don't even know why your planning to  be with him when you know he is just taken you for granted, and using you so that he can forget his old girlfriend. i think you should take a break from him for a while.

Answer 9

Why would you move in or marry some one who did not love you? I think you should still date him but not make a serious commitment to someone who does not say that he loves you.  If you got the patience and time to hang out and wait for him to make up his mind I hope it works out.    

Answer 10

Love is patient and takes time. There's no pre-determined time to when someone should say it, if at all. You're dating, you're not married, you don't need to "love" each other. Just care about each other and enjoy each other's company and that's the most important bit. If it's love, it will grow naturally over time and will show up when he's ready. If anything, that means more than someone who says i love you two weeks in.

Your friends have a twisted sense of entitlement to what "love" is, don't listen to them.

Answer 11

its just means he oviously wants to say 'i love you' and mean it.

he could say that he loves you and not mean it so just give him a lil time, dnt worry bout it.