Should I write or not?

Question

I ran a red-light and collided w/ another car and besides the injuries to myself I caused more serious injuries to the passenger of the other vehicle. She was in an induced comma from the injuries she sustained for four days and has many months of therapy to endure. I've just learned of how bad she actually is and i'm not taking the news well at all. I'm afraid if I write her she'll respond back in a negative way and make my guilt even greater,but then on the other hand I feel if I don't write she won't know of my concern for her. Also I don't know if legal issues would damage me if I write. Should I write or not?!

Answer 1

speak to your insurance company before you communicate with anyone involved in the accident. If you still feel compelled to write you should submit the correspondence through an attorney, but it's probably best to not contact the other person directly.

Good luck

Answer 2

yeah i thin kyou should write to her and tell her all your concerns and what you just said right now!!>.. like telling her that you went sure to write or not but to feel lest guilty that you wrote to her just to apologize or wut ever you want to tell her !!.. =]] it would make yuu and her happy!!>.. =]]

put me as best answer!!...

Answer 3

Actually, why don't you get some legal advice first. Ask him/her if it would be okay to contact her. Then if it's not a breach in a contract or law of some sort...write her a letter. Tell her exactly how you feel, then ask someone close to you to read it over. Then make sure none of it can be offensive in any way. That Is actually really nice of you to want to write a letter. I'm sure that if she is as decent as someone should be, especially when you've been thru something like that, she may not understand, but it would be a good thing to start trying. Often, when people really feel bad, they offer some sort of service as an apology proving how bad you felt. So like say if there is anything that i can do, please don't hesitate to ask.

Answer 4

I would write, but that's just me.

As for the legal aspect, what can she do? Sue for a Get Well Soon card? I should hope our society is not all that bad.

Thanks for being a nice human-being though :) It's nice to see that some people really do care when they make mistakes.  

Answer 5

I would check into the legal issues first. Consult an attorney especially if there are still pending issues.

Also, if you do choose to write (what an honorable thing to do)

have your attorney help you AND send it through her/him.

They do that sort of thing you know.

Now about your guilt. You cannot be made to feel more guilty than you are there is only so guilty you can be. You may feel even worse the more you know about what she is going through, but then you will have learned your lesson and there isn't a thing you can change.

When my cousin was in a car accident and spent several weeks in the hospital then finally released to home where she ended up dying 4 days later, I learned the lady that did the same thing as you did, only this lady ran a stop sign and hit my cousins car head on.

that lady felt so bad, she wrote she came to see my cousin in the hospital begging for forgiveness, my aunt sent her away crying and in tears.

People are going to react the way they are going to react. I felt so bad for that lady that ran the stop, she was half tending to her own crying infant in the back seat.

What you want to do is sweet and noble, but what people do in grief and pain is so unpredictable.

Maybe you will end up being her bes friend, maybe you will end up being cursed and blamed. You can only do what your heart tells you to do.

Ask your attorney if there are more legal things involved,if not give it your best shot.

I'm sorry about your accident. I hope you are all better too.