Should Kids be allowed to be in robe all day and play computer games, mother is at work, no father.?

Question

14 yr old stays in robe , lives in bedroom playing video games all day. What do you recommend? Arguments/ discussions have started between me and her about situation, not normal to me and she says what is the big deal.

Answer 1

that just shows all of the society's problems today - no father because they are all scared pigs and our materialistic ways. Way to go for Mankind!

Answer 2

Not good, but not your call (unless you are the father).

Answer 3

It is normal for teens these days...but not good for him (or the many other teens).. He needs to socialize, learn responsibility and have fun outside of the house.. I also don't think a 14 year old should have a computer in his room.. If it's going to be in his room there should be blocks on it preventing him from going to sites a 14 year old shouldn't be going to... Gaming is sort of an addiction... I imagine if he was preventing from getting on or gaming for a day he would be irrate about it..thus saying it is an addiction..

As far as what to say to his mom...well...not much you can say.. If he's in his room on the computer he's out of her hair and she's not having to deal with him.. Encourage her to have more "family" time with him and get him out of the house.. Take him to ride four whellers, fish, minature golf etc.. Help him find a hobby that encourages human interaction and socialization.. Ask her how she thinks this kid will be when it's time to be around people and find a job?? Or maybe take the computer out of his room and limit his time on it to a few hours a day.. Or maybe everyother day he can be on it and everyother day he can't.. Tell her you're just concerned that he doesn't have a life outside of the gaming and it can cause "face to face" socialization problems in later life..