Should a 13 year old be able to have the internet in her bedroom?

Question

We are having a debate about this. I say No. Even though she is a good girl and does not get into any trouble, I dont feel that this would be a good idea and she thinks I should allow her to have the internet in her room. She wants other peoples opinions on this. What do you think?

Answer 1

it depends how responsible they are.

Answer 2

I'm 13, in my own room, on my own computer, with internet.  I got the computer for my 5th grade graduation, with internet!  If you really aren't sure, you could set up a parental block to the sites you don't want her to see, but let her go to the sites she wants to go on on her computer.

Answer 3

No. Someone that age still needs supervision. I would say the computer should be in a central location. If she has a computer in her room (for school work) no internet

Answer 4

if she is responsible and trustworthy, i dont see why not.

Answer 5

I say no, too! There's just too much stuff out there, and you want to be able to keep an eye on where she's going.

Answer 6

Yes.

If there is a parental lock on it to prevent her going to adult sites and seeing inappropraite things

And also only if there is a time limit to her use and if she stays on too long take it away  

Answer 7

I'm 13, and I do have internet in my room. My take on it would be to go ahead. =]

But if you think she shouldn't get it, [[the internet can be really dangerous]] then don't give it to her. But like you said, she's a good girl and doesn't get into any trouble, so she sounds like she's smart enough to know right from wrong, and wouldn't try meeting up with an online friend or something.

Answer 8

I think you should try it and if she abuses the privelage, move the computer into a different room. If she's a "good" kid like you say then it shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 9

I don't see why not. I'm 13 and my parents don't care what I do on the internet. Their only rule is no myspace. Besides, I think myspace is stupid. My computer is in the living room but it doesn't matter because my parents don't look at it. I've had internet in my room since I was 5. Not that I knew how to use it.

Answer 10

I would say no.  There are alot of predators out there and it scares me to death to think of something happening to my child.  Keep the computer in a common area.  

Answer 11

No, she should be outside playing and getting fresh air - if the area you live in is safe. But definitely not sitting in front of a screen all day. If you do allow it, set a time limit (an hour a day or something). I never had the internet until I was 17!! I spent my days outside, running around with my friends and getting some good old fashioned exercise :D (I'm 19 now, just in case I sound like an old person, hehe).

Answer 12

yes y not, in my room i have a phone, computer, ipod, tv, a stereo, my own room, and i queen bed. Im 14 years old  

Answer 13

Absolutely not! This is coming from a 14-year-old girl, too. I mean, the internet is a great tool, but only if you use it for the right reasons. A 13-year-old girl is bound to be more bold when she is in her room alone on the internet. Also, I think that having her use the internet outside of her room, either on the family computer or her personal one if she has one, would promote family communicationand social skills. If she has a computer in her room, it would be like you telling her to just go to her room and not hang out or be around her family. So, that's my take on it. Hope it helped :)

-Madeline<33

Answer 14

no there is no need for a 13 year old to have internet in her bedroom if she must use it thats what the family computer is for there are to many people on here that can gain the trust of even a good girl and bring harm to her Chris Hansen did a whole series about it and I was amazed how many people showed up to meet with a child there are alot of sick people out there and no matter how much you trust her it's best in this day in age to be able to monitor what they do which would be harder to do if it was in her bedroom.

Answer 15

If you use parental controls and passwords, you can lock out what you don't want her to access. You can also set it up where, if it's a home network computer, you can access her internet acct  from your computer to monitor what web sites she goes on. Those would be the stipulations I would require if she were allowed to have a computer in her room. That's the way I set up the system for my grandkids when I lived with my son. Worked out great. With parent as the administrator, and the other accounts set up as juvenile accounts with parent-controlled passwords, the administrator can lock the websites and monitor the activity as well.

Answer 16

im 13 and have the internet in my room ..im sittin in my room at theminute =]

..hardly doin anything bad , im on this lol and talkin to some mates.

but its wayy more comfy then if i was downstairs lol

go for it show u trust her ..

x

Answer 17

well...if she is a girl that respects her parents and does well in school and does not get in trouble...then yes. oh and the ther thing that would determine thid would b, does she change around her friends and become more willing to do what they want her to do?if so, then maybe the internet is a bad idea bcuz she could get in alot of trouble by posting somethinf stupid on the internet.

Answer 18

She's thirteen,she knows more about "pornography" than you think.Don't ask her cuz its just wrong and emberrassing to be asked about that by youre mom!

And as far as "Sexula Predators" She wouldnt be so stupid as to give away her address you know.

Answer 19

Not In A MILLION YEARS...NO NO NO WAY!!! We have ONE computer in our house...it is in the Family-Room where I monitor everything that goes on on it!!!  Not ONE Computer in any Kids Room!

Answer 20

I don't think so.  Even if she is a really good girl, things  happen on the computer and weird freaky people can even trick adults into doing things they shouldn't! Like downloading things that can give the computer a virus or myspace where you could get stalked.  Even though she may be a good girl, I don't think that it is safe.  The internet should be out in the open so that you can make sure everything is fine, that doesn't mean go through all the history and snoop around, it just means that she has enough space, but not completely.  Plus, if it is in her room, no matter what, people get curious and tempted and she may look at and read stuff that you don't approve of.  If the computer is not in her room, she may feel that she should not be looking at that sort of thing.  Its just my opinion on the matter, and i hope you feel confident in what ever decision you make about this.

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Answer 21

I would say no. It something right now you would want to keep an eye on here when she on the interent. Since s*x offanders been getting on myspace and other sites. I wouldn't have in her room at all. I would have it some where to keep an eye on her for awhile..

Answer 22

The answer is NO.All experts tell you to have the computer in an open common area. This is your child and it is up to you to protect her. The internet is like the wild, wild west. Would you allow her to travel around with strangers without adult supervision in real life?

Answer 23

I think this is okay, but you should check internet history, or have her keep he door open at the times she uses it.

Answer 24

i got the internet in my room at 13 but my parents watched what I did VERY carefully, i wasnt allowed to clear pc out before they checked

Answer 25

I have internet on my room since i was 10,I am 14 now.You.parents think that we are going to go to.p**n!!!!,or talk with other people,that we are not supposed to,but if your girl is a good girl i think is OK1

Answer 26

If she's shown responsibility and trustworthiness in her life then it's not bad to give it to her. The only reason you wouldn't is if you didn't trust her. If she's been good and truthful and honest then I would say yes.

Answer 27

Well personally your daughter sounds like a good girl but I still wouldn't suggest putting the computer into her room.

An ex-friend of mine, had her computer put into her room and she became completely anti social. She ignored peoples phone calls constantly so she could be on the computer all day (including my phone calls! jerk. lol) and when I or anyone went to hang out with her she made us stay in her room all day so she could be on the computer.

She also began talking to random people on the internet and she actually gets deeply offended and emotional by these people when they say mean things to her (BUT SHE PRETENDS TO BE SOMEONE ELSE (not herself) AND SHE DOESNT EVEN KNOW WHETHER OR NOT THESE PEOPLE ARE REAL)

I had many fights with her because she pretty much loved her computer life then her real life. I tried to help her and she stopped going on the computer but then she went back.

Her parents dont even know the kinds of things she does on there. Its sick.

Though I doubt this would happen to your child, I would still not put the computer in her room.

Just put the computer in a private part of the house where you can still see her but give her privacy so she won't lock herself away.

Answer 28

I thiink its good, if shes a good giirl, but if you see that its affecting her then take it away.

Answer 29

I don't see why not.

but my parents don't let me.

& im 13. im not sure why not?

Answer 30

Sure.

What's wrong with that?

I'm young and I have the internet in my room.

If she is a good girl,she can be trusted.

Answer 31

I was aloud too.

I think it's fine.