Should a bridesmaid have a say in what dress she wears?

Question

i am going to be a bridesmaid for my sister, I really dont like the dress she has chosen for me, do i refuse to wear it, or just go along with it?

Answer 1

I think you should have a say but you have to do whatever the bride wants because you are her maid for that day.

Sorry.

Answer 2

its her wedding, her choice, you will have the choice when it your wedding and if she is your bridesmaid you can even get revenge

Answer 3

Unless you can delicately say something without causing a huge fight, just go along with it.  You get to pick the dresses for your wedding, she gets to pick for hers.

Answer 4

unless it's something you just can't handle.... too tight, too short, too low cut, strapless and falling off, or it's too expensive and you can't plain out afford it then you're stuck. this is about her day and if that neon green tulle ruffled dress is what she wants.... then where's the harm?  

Answer 5

to a certain extent, the bridesmaid has a say. if it doesn't fit you right, for example if you have a large chest and she is trying to put you in a tiny little low cut dress where you will be falling out of the dress, then you have a right to say something. but if it fits you fine but you just "dont like it" because it's not your style, then i think you just have to go along with it and where it anyway.

when i was a bride i let my bridesmaids pick out their own dress, i just told them what color i wanted.

Answer 6

I've been a bride, and this is a sticky situation.  I wanted all my Bridesmaid dresses to match, so therefore it's hard to please everyone.  But every bride should be considerate.  If the girls are all paying for their dresses, you can't go and pick out a $500 dress and make them buy it.  If the Bride is paying for them, then they should be willing to wear whatever she wants.  If I were you I wouldn't cause conflict about it, because it is your sister's wedding.  Planning is a difficult and stressful process, and you don't want to create more stress for her than is necessary.    

Answer 7

I'm going to let my bridesmaids have a say in the dress they wear.  As long as they are all the same color and basically the same length they should be able to have a say in the dress they wear.  They should be comfortable in the dress and besides just because one dress looks great on one girl, doesn't mean that same dress will look good on another.  

I don't think that you should flat out refuse to wear it.  Talk to you sister and see if you guys can compromise on something.  Though in the end this is her wedding, so ultimately if she wants you to wear the dress you probably will have to(if you want to be in her wedding).  But at least voice your opinion to her in a nice way of course!

Good luck!