Should a man wear an engagement ring?

Question

I live in Germany and my man in North Carolina. We have a daughter of 5 years together. We met in 2002, had our baby 2003, and 2004 we broke up. Now since January 2008 we are a couple again. He also came to visit this year. He is joining the Army again to come to Germany and marry me. He said he doesn't want an engagement ring because "guys don't wear engagement rings". We have been through h**l and back together with our rocky past and I would find it a symbol of love if he wore won, since he was also so big about me wearing one, and he got me a nnniiiccceee one, too, said his lady can't wear some cheap simple ring. So I want him to wear one, too, but I don't want to buy one and him end up not wearing it. What should I do?

Answer 1

he is g*y

Answer 2

i'm pretty sure guys were rings too.. he jst might not want to ... cuz of the army thing

Keep your trust in God

Answer 3

yea

Answer 4

i think it is fine if he wears a ring.  it all depends on how soon you are getting married.  if you dont have a plan with a set date, he shouldnt wear the ring.  if you do have a soon date, he should wear the ring!

Answer 5

ITS A WEID THING!! GUYS ARE VEY WEIRD MY BOYFRIENDS PARENTS ARE A WEIRD COUPLE SHE WEARS A WEDDING RING AND HE DOESNT, HE FINDS IT IMASCULANT, MY BF SAYS HE WOULDNT WEAR ONE BUT I WOULD MAKE HIM WEAR IT NEWAYS, ALL GUYS R DIFFERENT, MAYBE NOT AN ENGAGEMENT RING BUT HE SHOULD WEAR A WEDDING RING

Answer 6

guys dont wear engagement rings but they do wear "wedding rings' once its offical

Answer 7

I loved Heidelberg! but No, it's actually not a compliment to you for him to say he 'consented to be your spouse' that is what an engaement ring implies..  Be the lady and wear your ring proudly.

btw--no ring ever stopped any man from doing what he pleased, not saying he would do anything wrong.

Answer 8

No. Men do not traditionally wear engagement rings. If he does not want to wear a ring until you are married, you should drop it.

If your only reason is that you "want other people to know he is taken," then you are insecure about your relationship (and from what you've told us, I can see why), and that is not a good sign at all.

Good luck.

Answer 9

he's right. men do not where them. men only wear a ring once they are married.  

Answer 10

A man can wear an engagement ring, but it's not traditional. He might be worried about what his army pals will think if he wears one. Obviously, if he does agree to wear one, it shouldn't be a diamond solitaire like yours - that's not appropriate for a guy or for his profession. Choose a very simple, nice band that won't look gaudy or feminine.

Answer 11

You could get him a masculine band of some sort.  I got my fiance an engagement ring, a titanium band with a tension-set rough-cut sapphire.  It's got a rugged look, so it doesn't look too feminine.  He loves it (he actually helped me pick it out for him).  So it's not true that men do not wear engagement rings.  I have heard of a couple of guys who do so, and I know at least one man who does: mine!

Talk to him, see if you can compromise with a masculine-looking ring.  I felt the same way, I wanted my fiance to have a symbol of commitment that everyone can see.  

Here's a few examples that he might like:

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Answer 12

honestly men dont wear engagement rings..those are for women..

just wait until you get married and buy him a nice wedding band..

good luck

Answer 13

Guys don't wear engagement rings.  Don't him look like a wuss to his fellow soldiers.  Stop being so controlling!

By the way, wouldn;t this all have been a lot easier if you had gotten married to him before the baby was born?

Answer 14

well, guys dont wear engagement rings but I think I could make some canges for you if it was that serious. But if he dont want to wear the ring dont buy one you can get him something else like a chain with a certin charm or something else thats kinda symbolic.

Answer 15

Explain your reasoning to him.. maybe he'll wear it if he understands why you want him to

Answer 16

Traditionally from where im from men who are engaged do not wear rings as they are not so crazy about them like us girls are.  But if he loves you and you get him the ring he shouldnt have a problem with wearing it.  Men do wear the rings when they are married.  I can see that they wouldnt wear them to work or something as it could be a safety hazard in some fields of work.

Answer 17

Guys don't wear engagement rings. You sound slightly paranoid. If you trusted the guy then this wouldn't be an issue.

I suggest you learn how to trust him fully before you even think about marrying him, otherwise you guys are going to have some big issues and the marriage will be over before it even begins...