Should a mother let her 15 year old daughter have s*x when she knows it's happening?

Question

with an 17 year old as well.

Answer 1

Ok ... The thing is is that even if she tells her daughter to stop she is not going to have s*x anyways and shes just going to begin doing worse things behind her back .. I have many friends who became pregnant teenage mothers because of the fact their parents were way too strict on them and lever let them out and things like that... What she could do is talk to her about it make sure shes protecting herself and this guys means something to her ... Pretty much that shes not only doing it on his wants ... make sure she wants it too ... And also really really stress the fact that they need to use protection ... She can even discuss with her about birth control and make sure to let her know about all the STI's out there ...  Pretty much make her daughter trust her and know that she will be there for her whenever she needs her ...and maybe this could even make her and her daughters relationship better and closer to one another.... Hope it Helps !!!

Answer 2

then that mother is weird. my mom says it a sin to have s*x b4 marriage even though i'm not really religoius as my mom is though. :))

Answer 3

i dont think so

15 is really an early age to have s*x ans the mother should stop her

because she maybe sometime soon she'll get pregnant and have a child while maybe the father will leave her and make her tend to the baby on her own

Answer 4

No, but I don't know how she could actually stop her.

So I think she should just do the best she can.

Answer 5

man its a tough one. i know i would want to lock her in the basement and never let her out but you cant be that way. around here its pretty common for 13 yrs old girl to start having s*x. so 15 isnt anything new. but it still isnt good. but you cant tell her she cant. thatd be the worse thing you could do. tryin to stop your kids from doing sumthing will always fail. especially at that age. 15 and a 17 aint really that big a deal. they are both just kids and both in high school together everyday prolly so that lil age difference aint that bizarre. but the best thing would be to just sit down and have a long talk about it. tell her you dont want her to but you knwo she is going to and you want to make sure she is safe and knows all the facts and details and consequences and everything like that. get her on some birth control for sure. and not the pill cuz that **** dont work cuz kids think they dont have to use condoms if she on the pill and the pill dont work that great. all i can say is good luck. but i wouldnt let them do it in my house by no means.  

Answer 6

everyone's different. just because you might not think 15 is a good age, that's because you're not her.  if she's ready  it's not really your business if her mom is in on in or not. it's a family thing.    

Answer 7

She shouldn't condone it, but I don't many ways to actually stop her from doing it unless she locks her daughter in the house. She definitely shouldn't provide a place to do it though, regardless of the age difference.  

Answer 8

The mother cant stop her, so i say yes

Answer 9

um NOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She could get pregnant or get an STD. It's very dangerous. No one at 15 should be having s*x. In fact you shouldn't have s*x until your married. You should definitely not let this go on. You must put your foot down on this one. Think if something happens to your daughter how would you feel. If you didn't stop it and something happened it would be your fault. So please get her help.  

Answer 10

uuuuuuuuh, no. A 15 yr old shouldnt be doing it at all. Doesnt matter if its with a 17 or 29 year old.

Answer 11

who cares, the daughter will be known as a s**t.  

Answer 12

Well there's not much she can do to stop them, so she should focus more on making sure her daughter knows how to protect herself and that she is open for communication.

Answer 13

theres not much the mother can do about it if the girl is going to have s*x shes going to have s*x.the best thing to do is to just make sure the daughters being safe and get her on some birth control and some condoms.as long as shes having s*x with a boyfriend and not just random guys i dont think it should be that big of a problem. more than half the girls her age at her school are already having s*x.its not a good thing but thats how society is these days. kids get curious and it just happens.her mom just needs to talk to her about the consequenses and everything.

good luck!

Answer 14

Um, no?  Do you really need to ask this question?  I mean, doesn't your common sense kind of tell you it's not wise?

Yeah, yeah, some say she will do it anyway.  Get her on the pill or get an IUD in her, tell her about STDs, tell her that this guy probably doesn't want anything more from her than s*x, and then if she chooses to do it anyway, that's her own fault.

So, when she gets pregnant, the dad goes to jail, and CPS wants to take her child away, and she says "my mom knew I was having s*x and let me", what do you think will happen then?

Answer 15

no this is the time to stop it! not let her continue..but if she does...make sure she on birth control, and uses protection...teens these days

14 years old

Answer 16

A 15 year old shouldn't be having s*x ,s*x is for making babies. The 15 yr old can wait and enjoy being a teen, she has plenty of time.The mother of the 15 year old should be helping her with school and planning for the future

Answer 17

heres whats gunna happen if you do or dont.

if you dont let her :

she wont care. either way, shes still gunna have s*x, and you guys are gunna fight about it a lot.

if you do let her:

she'll keep doing it (obv), but she wont be arguing with you about it, and she'll know you trust, respect, and support her.

she's having s*x, you cant change that. but at least if you let her, you can make sure shes being safe and stuff and she wont hate you.

Answer 18

GOD NO! whats happening to the world?!  

Answer 19

Absolutely not, unless of course, that Mother wishes to be a grandmother soon. Then sure.

Answer 20

I think depending on the state, the 17 yr old can be considered a statuatory rapist.  The debate is whether it's better to monitor the girl, keep her on birth control so that she doesn't further mess up her life by getting pregnant.  This should only be done with a talk with the daughter about why she feels she needs to do this.  The alternative is to say no, I'm NOT going to let my daughter have s*x.  How will this be implemented?  with a chastity belt?  A lot can be accomplished in a car in a half hour at lunch time at school.  The best the mother can do is give the daughter some real world advice regarding s*x itself.

Answer 21

Yikes, thats tough...glad my kids are still a little younger.  I would say that you cannot "let" her do anything.  I remember what I was like at that age,and I would find a way to do something even if my parents told ne no.  I would suggest making sure that she has as much education on the subject as possible, and that she knows that you do not approve.  But in the end, the harsh reality is that she is going to make her own decision.  Just give her the tools to be safe.

Answer 22

LOL. Unless you want to raise her baby.

If not, stop it.

Answer 23

no she should stop it kids should not have s*x at a young age  

Answer 24

Hello!

I'm telling you this from my own personal experience.  Only because I REALLY wish that my mother would have done this for me when I was younger.

It's probably really hard knowing that your daughter is having s*x and now that I have a daughter of my own I know that it's not something that I'd like either, but doing something is better than doing nothing.  You really need to have a good sit down and heart to heart talk with her.  No yelling just talk and Mom ask ask ask all of the questions that you can.  Doesn’t hold back and NEVER ever blame yourself.  It's not your fault.  s*x is something that every girl or boy will do no matter what you tell them, but weather you like to know it or not they really look up to you as there parent.  They may not admit it at this stage as they are teens and most teens don't ,but talking to them can make all of the world a difference.  Start off by saying,  "Rebecca(or whatever her name is)  I know that your having s*x, but........." and even ask her if this guy that she is dating if she knows for sure that he's the one or not. And if so how does she know that and ask her.   It might be a little awkward at first, but to talk about it and what you are feeling will make all the world of difference to her and you too and it may not stop her from having s*x she'll know that that is something that you don't approve of at such a young age.  She might already know this but make sure that at the end of the conversation that you tell her that you still love her and that way she knows that even though she did something that she probably should not that you still love her.  Setting ground rules like no sleep overs can help to.  I know some parents out there that let there teens have sleep overs by the opposite s*x and that's just dumb. It's like saying,  "ok here's my daughter you can have her" and that's just asking for trouble.

I hope that this help!  Best of luck to you.

Answer 25

I'm 16, I'm quite mature and i can look it at it from your point of view and hers.

Shes probably enjoying being with him because hes 17 and to her hes more grown up and he makes i feel mature.

For her mother/friend (or who ever you are to her) you obviously thinking that hes too old for her and its technicly illegal.

If you tell this girl that she cant do it then shes only going to rebel and do it somemore. Thats how teenagers are :P

AND for all you stupid people out there reading this::

s*x should not only be in a marraige you people believe what you want but dont force it upon others, jeeees.

&& s*x is not just for making babies other wise why would somebody of created contriceptions.

s*x is when a person wants to be intermate with another. simple as, ok they should be sixteen or over and they should be protected but stop spilling rubbish to people.

Answer 26

NOOOOOO!!!!!!

Answer 27

You can't really force her not to, because where there's a will, there's a way. Just make sure she practices safe s*x. Get her on the Pill, and buy a box of condoms.

Answer 28

i am a 15 yo

not having s*x but one of my friends is

she has been with her partner 2 years

alot longer than some ADULTS that have sexual relations

she has not told her mum as she is too scared

she is SENSEABLE and is on the pill

and he boyfried uses a condom

i feel she would be better having some support

from her mother

people should realise WHATEVER people say

kids will still have s*x

as long as they are taught of the dangers

s*x should not be a taboo subject

Answer 29

if I was the mother i would not approve and tell her that if she becomes pregnant that she'd have to find her own way in life... hard reality but It's not right to make huge mistakes and expect the parent to help...  

Answer 30

The mother needs to get the daughter on birth control, even if she doesn't approve, otherwise the mother will have to deal with teen pregnancy, which she probably doesn't approve of either.

Answer 31

This is a catch 22.

Should the mother condone this behavior in her house? No.

Is the mother thinking that her daughter is going to have s*x, at least she can still communicate with her daughter, and tell her about the do's and don'ts;  i.e. safe s*x? I hope so.

It's no our place to judge, but thanks for letting us share our thoughts.