Should a person hold your past against you after you are married?

Question

i got married two months ago and was having a conversation with my wife recently when she made comment about not trusting me cuase all guys were the same and that i was a player before we met so to me it would reason to think y would you marry someone if u dont trust them jus lookin for a lil insight feel free too comment

Answer 1

She probably really cares about you but. Oh ooo shes a jealous type just like me. Prove to her that you really care about her, and dont stare at other chicks while she's around. Another thing DONT LIE TO HER because that will just make her not trust you even more. IF you think she looks fat in something dont say no, just imply it in a nice way, never say YES but say something like kinda. The only way a girl can ever be like that is if shes been cheated on before. I know because i was a long time ago and it still bugs me today. It really hurts when someone you care about a lot cheats on you. It can effect you in future relationships.

If you cheat on her, then All men are the same.

Answer 2

Well I feel like you can never  trust anyone 100%. But that does not mean you cant be happy or married. The past is that past she needs to worry about now and the commitment you both have made. I would focus more on the bliss of marriage.

Answer 3

No they should not. If they cannot handle it they should not have married you. What happened before her has nothing to do with your relationship with her. She is being unfair.

Answer 4

Our past defines us.

It has shaped us to what we are today, to what made us form a personality that has attracted someone else to us.

Our past, our past experiences are... us!

What we are made of... today!

And that is something you need to remind her.

Answer 5

Well dude unless she was a virgin she probably has a few stories she could tell but never will. I guess now that your married its best to lay the cards out on the table. If you want to be a player let her know. If you love and cherish her then tell her she has nothing to worry about. But the constant jealousy is going to drive you up the wall.  

Answer 6

I would only think it matters if you were a player while you were dating.

Answer 7

No, there is no past in marriage, only the future.

Also u become a new person after marriage. Under no circumstance can the past be held against a person, after marriage. It appears your wife is a suspicious type, and does not trust anyone. Such people r best left unmarried, and there is no hope for such people as they do not trust that real happiness comes after marriage.

Answer 8

wow.  you don't believe in punctuation, do you?

were you honest with her before you got married?  if you were, and she married you, then there is no reason to hold it against you.  if you told her nothing, and it all of a sudden "came up", then i would expect her to get upset.  

my husband was totally honest with me, and told me all of his previous relationships.  he's been my only boyfriend, so mine was a short "history".  you need to be open and honest BEFORE marriage.