Should a pregnant woman be allowed to give input as to what she wants on her own baby shower?

Question

Yes? No? What's your opinion and why?

Answer 1

I've never heard of a "surprise" baby shower. The baby shower is thrown for the mom to be, yes, but, she also is allowed to give input, I think, if asked. I wouldn't be a momzilla about it, lol...Anyway, my friends threw me a shower and they asked me what I wanted, even down the the flavor of the cake. Who would want a baby shower thrown for them and in the end, not like the result? If there's something that you're really not fond of doing, or a food you don't really care for, politely "suggest" something else.  

Answer 2

Well, I think someone it probably throwing it for her and its traditionally suppose to surprise her .

If the mom to be has a say, then she should be throwing the party herself.  

Answer 3

Sure...I'm helping to plan mine...it's your baby's and your day!

Answer 4

Yes, it's her shower. Why would she not have any input on it?

Answer 5

Yes. The party is about her and her unborn child. Why would you want to do something she wouldn't appreciate? What would be the point in forcing someone to do something that don't enjoy, or eat foods they don't like?

Answer 6

well...when someone else host your baby shower...there paying for the shower with there own money...there probably excited about doing it aswell...but if there not asking your input i would put it like this...well here is a theme i was thinking of going with.....it might help you on planning the shower...if by chance someone ask you if there is a certain item i need i have a baby registry here and diapers and baby wipes are always good...just phrase it in a way..that your not telling her what to do ...but in  a way your trying to help...hope this help..i had 3 babyshowers...and my first i just gave her the register cards for the invitations and she asked what type of cake i wanted and food...the rest i just kinda sat and enjoyed i mean thats your day to sit and relax and have fun and get cute baby gifts...i would take it all in...

Answer 7

I say you have a choice. If someone is throwing it for you. Tell them what theme you want and what your looking for. This is for the satisfaction of you, it's your baby & your time. My sister n law & mother threw mine- and I told them I wanted a certain theme & a certain cake- and they went out and did that. They got the kind of decorations and did the games on their own but I picked the theme. They should want you to be involved, it's an important day to you. Good luck!!

Answer 8

Of course! Its her baby shower. Thats like asking if someone should have a say in what they want for their own birthday, or bridal shower!

Answer 9

Sure.... I did.

I'm having 2 showers. My mom and grandmother are throwing one as is my best friend. I asked my best friend for a "Bare Bottoms" shower where you only just get the essentials... diapers, wipes, medicines, first aid, etc.  

Answer 10

YES, LIKE A GIFT REGISTRY- OR IDEAS. THEY MAY WANT CERTAIN ITEMS

Answer 11

That would be presumptuous and rude.

Your friends and family are joining together to do you a favor, to give your gifts, support you----and you want to tell them how to do it? That's crass.

Answer 12

of course she should because what would happen if you planned it without asking her what she wanted and she had a terrible time, i mean the baby shower is for her anyway, i'm very greatful that my friends threw me a baby shower but they didn't ask what kind of foods i would want and they ended up making all this stuff that i couldn't eat cause it made me sick or made me feel nausous, so i would definately ask the mom to be what she wanted.

Answer 13

Well, if there were specific games, ethnic rituals, or foods that the pregnant mother might/might not want, I could understand giving input into the baby shower.  Other than that, I can't think of anything where she should have anything to say about....it is all dependent on the people who is doing the party planning, and how much they can afford.

Answer 14

It would be reasonable to work with the person throwing the shower to register someplace and notify people that you will love whatever they give you and the baby, but there are a couple of items you really need and would appreciate.  It is for the mom and baby, afterall.  Why make the mom return the things she doesn't have use for?

Answer 15

That's what a baby registry is for. You go to Babies r' Us. Target has one, Walmart has one, Kmart has one. You walk around the store with this little scan gun and scan the items you'd like or want, And then your friends and family are supposed to go online look up your name and see what items you'd like.

Answer 16

well my mother and my babys fathers mother planned mine and they really didnt have the same "vision" as me as for what i wanted. We wanted something for all our friends (guys and girls) and family and it wasnt super formal, no stupid shower games, just a laid back celebration barbeque. well when they were planning it they asked for my imput so i gave it to them and thats pretty much what we are having. i think that a pregnant woman should be allowed to have some of her personal preferences met so i dont think its tacky to give your imput.

Answer 17

no....the only input you really need to put in ..especially if someone else is throwing it for you..is what you already have, what you need and whether you are having a boy/girl.  its kinda rude to be in charge of it if someone else is being nice and thoughtful of you to throw you one, then you decide you want to run it. its ok maybe to suggest some things...but dont override the person who already had ideas.  your job is to sit back relax and get free suff!!..no matter what just be appreciative.

Answer 18

Thats what a registry is for, yes.

Answer 19

Why wouldn't she be given input on her own baby shower.  It is supposed to be a party for her and her child.  If she does not have input then who does, the unborn child?  

Answer 20

Input?  Yes.

Total Control, maybe.

If someone is throwing you a baby shower and they are paying for everything and doing all the work (invitations, decorations, games if having them, etc), keep in mind that they may have some time and/or $$$ restraints.  Also, they may really be enjoying the process of being able to give this gift to you.  So, yes, give them your input, but try to be a good sport too and just remember they do want to to be happy.  If it is a little thing and you can let it go just let it go.  In the end you'll be thrilled to have a day all about you and the baby with our pals all around.

Some people have that crazy mom who has to do everything their way though and it is best to let her know if you don't have the nergy for some crazy party scheme she's got up her sleeves.

Honestly it depends on your relationship with the person throwing the shower.  I know that is a cop out, but just ask them what they have in mind.  If they want it to be a suprise tell give them a list of some people that HAVE to be there (one of which may clue you in to what's up) and if there is anyone you don't want to be there.

Enjoy the shower!  You're lucky someone cares enough for you to throw one.  Have a blast!

Answer 21

What does she want for gifts? Yeah, sure. After all, she knows what she has and needs better than anyone else.

As far as where and when? Yes, there are some pretty busy women out there, pregnant or not, who have to squeeze it into their schedule.

Who is invited? Well, sure. The more people the better, but the lady should have a say if she absolutely doesn't want anyone in particular to be invited.

Answer 22

I don't think so no...its not something you should expect people to do for you. Its a gift from someone who wants to do something special for you. I think its presumptuous to try and say how things should be.