Should adoptees only be allowed to adopt?

Question

since we are experts at it.

Answer 1

I would say yes unlike everyone else here... That would be awesome of you! You do have an advantage and would know how to relate to them. Wanting to adopt instead of having one of your own would mean so much to the child your taking in.

But if you choose to have one of your own would you favor yours over the adopted one or love him/her just the same/equally?

That is a good question and you have a good heart!

Answer 2

Ooooooh, Surfnerd.  This question gives me a great idea!  Make every PAP spend one year as an adoptee.  

Take them away from all the family they've ever known, and make them live with complete strangers...loving, caring strangers, just to be fair.  

Make them live with those people for an entire year, and force them to pretend those people are their "real" family.  

If they express any sadness at losing their old family or feelings of being disconnected from their new family, totally dismiss them. Tell them to be grateful for being adopted by such great people, and that EVERYONE has those feelings at one time or another.

Maybe then they'll have just  a little inkling of what it feels like to be adopted.

Answer 3

nooooooo -- remember, we're all sociopath serial killers!!!  and besides that, anyone who wants to adopt is selfish and obviously lacking in their mental faculities if they feel they must adopt.

silly boy -- did your surfboard hit you in the head one too many times??  haven't you learned anything on this site?  we're all damaged and broken with holes in our lives -- why should we be allowed to adopt??  *just drippppping with sarcasm*

Answer 4

NO!

Answer 5

no there are to many kids for only those people (couldnt think of the word not trying to sound affencive) and some people just want a family and they cant have one and they are giving that chance to another child. all people should be able to adopt.

Answer 6

my husband and i cant have any of our own, we are bio kids, so are you saying we cant adopt, (besides DCF jerks, who cant type and scewed up our home study and took our license away)

Answer 7

Well, we definitely have an unfair advantage when it comes to understanding the nuances of raising an adopted child.

Some fruits don't have a clue.

Answer 8

um... no. why would that make any sense. that decreases the chances of a child getting adopted. you dont have to be an expert to love a child

Answer 9

no,children need parents,but you are right about being experts

Answer 10

Hmmm that was bitter.  Yeah go for it.

Answer 11

no,

thats retarded.

sorry.

Answer 12

Anyone with love should be allowed to. Adoptees would be very good at it, you have a good point. Adoptees would also definately be a great source of information for people thinking of adopting a child though. Thought about writing a book?

Answer 13

We're experts at being adopted, not adopting.

Some people make wonderful parents, and some don't. No difference with adoption. Some make wonderful adoptive parents, some don't.

I believe all adoptive parents should have to go through councelling with adopted adults, so they can see what we go through, and hopefully make it easier on their children.

Answer 14

Well, your question could be taken in two different ways.

First, you may be asking if only adopted people should be allowed to adopt children instead of anyone else being allowed to adopt children.

If this is what you meant then...that would be ridiculous. Anyone willing to love and able to provide for a child should be able to adopt a child.

If you are asking if adopted people should only adopt children versus having their own children naturally then...that is also ridiculous. Just because you are adopted doesn't mean that you are an expert or that you would even make a good parent.

You could always do both...adopt children and have your own children. There are so many children needing a good loving home.

I would like to add that adopted people do have an advantage as far as understanding the void that an adopted child may feel and the longing to see a resemblance in someone else's face.