Should all viewpoints on adoption be heard?

Question

I have seen a number of questions on here today and I wonder if it is right to squash all the negative stories about adoption? I feel that there is a small minority that is outright aganist adoption. But if someone is telling their story and it's not positive, why label them bitter? Maybe just like someone telling their positive adoption story, they are just telling their story.

Answer 1

All view points should be heard... and just because someone has a GOOD story about adoption and how it has affected their life, it shouldn't be booed and criticized, just like the bad experiences shouldn't be labeled as bitter, or angry.

Our stories are our stories.  Good, bad, happy, angry, confused, forgotten, remembered, afraid, excited...they are our stories, and we have a right to tell them without getting slammed for our feelings and experiences.

Answer 2

Of course everyone's opinion should be heard - it's America!  Overall I think that adoption is probably considered by many to be a good thing, but that certainly does not mean that there are people out there that suffer from bad adoption experiences and by all means their voices definitely need to be heard.

Answer 3

Yes, absolutely all viewpoints should be heard. As long as it answers the specific question without insulting the integrity of the asker.

Answer 4

I think adoption is a wonderful choice....that said I am not kidding myself of the seedy aspect of this choice.

There are many people willing to benefit from adoptions.

And it is a very lucrative business with very little oversight.

Laws need to change that consider the safety and well being of these children.

***Consider for every heart that rejoices with an adoption there is one breaking for the loss of a child.

Answer 5

Hi whatever!!

I 100% agree with what you are saying. I am new on here and have been greeted by alot of negative questions and answers on certain topics to do with adoption.

I think that everyone should be able to express how they feel about adoption, however I think its wrong that people make such a negative thing out of it all of the time. I dont mind listening to people point out the wrongs, but there is too many people on here doing it.

People fail to realise that adoption is different for everyone and is very different in other countries.

It seems that its all about american adoption rather than looking at other adoption processes. Its unfair.

I personally dont see adoption as a bad thing, I guess thats just because of my own personal experiences.

Everyone is different

Everyone should be able to have a voice

Answer 6

Certainly all view points should be heard, the good the bad and the ugly. I think there is a need for adoption, I just don't think every body needs to use it. If adoption had not been an option then perhaps I would still have my child, who knows? We will never know.

Answer 7

I, like rachael, have learned a lot here. I try to relate my story instead of my opinion but some times that gets hard. I am all for fathers rights, don't name call, and hardly use thumbs down. It's not neccessary. I respect others opinions and stories even if I have had a completely different experience. That's what this is supposed to be about. Different stories, different experiences, education, versitility in knowledge, compassion, healing, and unity among all members of a large yet very unpopular club, no matter how you became involved.

I think it is possible that some of the people here who are actually pro adoption are the ones squashing the bad stories. I think they are so pro adoption that they dont want newbies to know that it has a down side. Just something to think about. Although I am pro adoption I believe it is the "parents rights" to choose what they do in their particular situation. I think it is possible that some here use name calling and degrating as a tactic to discredit those with not so good experiences in the eyes of the innocent newcomers who are looking for legitimate help in making a decision. I also think that some of these peoples answers are very chameleon like.

Answer 8

EVERYONE should be heard. now some do take it too far with name calling and personal attacks, so a little more respect may be in order, but no one should be shunned. period.

i find adoption is aok's answer funny. they blocked me and my biomother from this forum. oh well, that is a choice they have. more power to them.

adoption is not all roses, but it is not all horrid stories of abuse either. i have learned sooo much here. i had these 'rose colored glasses' on before i found this forum. i thought every story was a good one, like mine. i was very wrong. i have to admit some days i wish i didnt have the awful stories of bad adoptions in my head. my ignorance was blissful, but i realize how crucial reform is, how many have encountered such terrible things. i needed to know that. it makes me much more objective.

everyone is entitled to their voice, if we stop them then we are no better then the agencies and government that hide little truths to keep the population happy.

Answer 9

Yeah, I think all viewpoints should be heard. I'm not a big fan of any form of censorship.

I usually appreciate opposing ideas, especially if they differ from my own. If I leave a discussion without gaining perspective I feel as If I've wasted my time.

Answer 10

Yes

ETA   LOL!  Alisa - I have yet to see ONE respectful post from you.  Pot.kettle.black much? lollol

Answer 11

Yes.  All viewpoints on any issue should be heard and given due consideration and respected.  None of that means you have to agree with it.  I come on here to hear the experiences these people have had so that I can learn from them.  Trying to shut them down takes away from the truth of the issue.

Answer 12

I think everyone's opinion can be heard, I am just surprised sometimes at the velocity and harshness of opinions.  I have asked a few questions to which i really wanted others opinions on and have been trashed like I am advoating a point.  I think though this is the nature of forums and question/answer places, you will have many differing polarizing opinions.  YOu have just have to filter those that are rude out.

Answer 13

haven't we covered this a dozen times?  everyone has the right to post RESPECTFULLY which doesn't happen here . .

When part of the anti-adoption movement sees an answer they don't like, they report it to have it removed...answers like "this question is absurd --posted only to inflame people" . . . yet, the anti-adoption community can call people thieves, liars, kidnappers, etc ..  .*sigh*  very clearly one-sided....

Whatever -- i'm not lumping you in with the rude, nasty anti-adoption group that i referred to before.  You're generally pretty respectful in your opinion.  You tell your story without attacking another.

Answer 14

Everyone has an opinion. I think it is healthy to know all sides of an issue. It can be a little harsh on here. There are a lot of people that give thumbs downs left and right just because they don't share the same opinion as the writer. That doesn't mean that someone else didn't find it helpful. There is no reason that one viewpoint should be quieted. This is a sensitive issue and everyone should be allowed to express themselves. You don't have to agree.