Should an 11 year old girl be allowed to wear string bikini underware?

Question

I have an 11 year old step daughter and her mom sends her over wearing string bikini underward and big hoop earings...is that just the way kids are now?? Am I behind the times...???

Answer 1

im 11 turning twelve.. and i dont think so! my older sis is 16 and SHE wears those.... not me,,,,, thats weird, cuz all of my friends don't and we're not those like protective kids, i mean we're popular, but no one at our school wears those and we are a K-6 skool... that is just weird!!!!!!! and no ur not..... she's just weird i think..

Answer 2

Absolutely not!!!!!

She's a young girl, a child for Pete's sake!

The questions should not even be asked.

JO

Answer 3

Not unless they want to get raped by 60 year old men.

Answer 4

Her mom is a sl-t and is teaching her daughter to be one too.Explain to her that she can get guys to notice her by dressing that way.They will see her as a disposable human s*x toy to be used and dumped at will,.

The reason being is, that although she can make them horny for her, she cannot make them love her.Oh they may tell her they do, until they get what they want from her.Then ask her why her mom wasn't able to keep her dad if good looks and s*x is all it takes.

Answer 5

Since she is your step-daughter let it be.

Peace

Answer 6

No 11 year old needs to wear string underwear!! earings arent bad but yeah why are kids trying to grow up so fast?! i dont get it.

Answer 7

no way

shes way too young

sending out the wrong messages to paedos

Answer 8

It does seem the media is trying to make our girls grow up a lil to fast because they want to be like the stars, But I would take this as a warning sign, ask her why it matters if no one is going to see them. My sister in law just went though this with her 16 yr old. And stay stern and protective of her, she will appreicate it when shes older

Answer 9

hey its completly up 2 her if thats the way she wants 2 dress sometimes u just have 2 leave it but if u want it would be a gud idea if u tould her mom about wat shes making her daugther!

gud luck >_<

xxsaharaxx

Answer 10

No

Answer 11

Yes, that is the way kids are nowadays. i mean, thats what i wear and i'm 14. nobody will see the underwear anyways, and big hoop earrings are in style.

Answer 12

um i think that is child abuse...she is setting her child up to be...sad to say and i hope it doesnt happen....kidnapped nad raped...that iis awful... an 11 year old has no business dressing like a hooker with the hoop ear rings...if i were her father i would put a stop to it. If it gets realy bad i think you can fight in court over things likethis...i have heard of it before... because it would be for her wellbeing.... i feel sorry for her having a mother that is so blind to what the world has become and teacher her daughter to dress hoochie... it makes me think of my drunk sister in law....she is the same way and she is a terriable mother....

Answer 13

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! Has her mother always been like this, or is she allowing her daughter to dress like that so that she's the 'cool' one? Is she afraid that this little girl will bond with you and ignore her if she doesn't do things like that? Or does she just need to be smacked in the head with a mallet?

Answer 14

I would say no she shouldn't be allowed. Some parents just don't know how to say "no" and her bio mom sounds like one of them. People say that's just what kids wear now a days....ummm only if irresponsible parents allow it and buy it. I would tell her the rules at your home are different and she needs to follow the rules at your home and her mother should respect that by not sending her that way to your home. Your husband should be the one to tell her this though being he is her father and you can be there to support him.

Answer 15

totaly i saw gurls at my old elementry who looked like freaking protatutes. and boy one gurl wore a strapless shirl and a padded bra she didn't need shes flat! and lookin at boys when they looked at her like, oh yeah you wanna get su huh?

Answer 16

ok... about the underwear thing... i work at victoria's secret and string bikinis are definitely not the worst she could be wearing. its still a full bottom so nothing is showing. now if she were wearing thongs i'd say absolutely not appropriate. you have no idea how many young girls come in buying thongs these days. it makes me sick.

there were these girls the other day (probably around 13 or 14) trying on lingerie while their mother was with them! not only that, but the mother bought slips for them! not like under a dress/skirt slip but a s**y slip!... just be thankful its only a string bikini and not a thong or lingerie.

Answer 17

i got in troble when i was 11 for wearing a skort that was mini

oh and i am that age and i wear skulls and and emo wahoo

Answer 18

Nobody will see them, anyways, so it shouldn't be a huge deal. It could be worse....

* underwear

Answer 19

In my opinion, underwear is just underwear, especially at the age of 11.  If your step daughter likes wearing pretty underwear, then I don't think that's such a big deal.  I mean, nobody should see her underwear anyways, right?  Wearing pretty underwear makes girls feel more girly, like having manicures and pedicures, it's just to make girls feel better about themselves.

As for big hoop earings, alot of young girls are wearing those.  That's more of an opinion thing.  I know alot of moms don't like them, and alot think they are just fine.  I personally have no opinion, I wouldn't wear them, but my sister does. If you don't like them, try taking her to the mall and picking out some cute ones for her to wear (don't go for lady bugs and that sort of thing, she's too old for that!  But go for cute dangley earings, with a bit of a diamond (fake of course) at the end, or a colored gem.)  Hoops are plain and boring, so if she has cute ones, she's likely to make the transaction over to the cute ones.

I don't think 11 year olds should be able to decide completely on their own what to wear.  But keep in mind, their starting that transition from being a young child to a young teenager, and they are confused on what to wear.  They want to dress like their role models on disney (Hannah Montana and whatever other Disney stars..i'm not sure who they are anymore...but they are all older, like 14-18) but parent's arent letting them, because alot of that clothing is well, S****y.  

Give her some rules.  Like no skirts lower than a certain length.  And shirts can't show your belly and can't show cleavage, or set a length of how high they have to be.  

Decide whether you will let her wear heals at your house, and if so, how high of a heel?

Decide on make-up.  Most girls are allowed to wear make-up at her age, it's normal.  But alot of girls don't know how to yet, so if she's caking it on and looking a bit trashy with it, set her down and have a mommy and me spa party and teach her how to apply it properly.  And buy her lighter shades too.

If you give her rules, but let her free in her own style, she'll be less likely to try and sneak around (like buy a shirt, have her friend hide it at her house, and change at school so you don't see it.).  She'll feel like she's able to wear whatever, but she won't be dressing trashy.

Answer 20

Let her wear them Pick your battles carefully.

Answer 21

SOMETIMES KIDS ARE THAT WAY, BUT REALLY 11 YEARS OLD IS MIDDLE SCHOOL:) TECHNICALLY BUT SHE MAY JUST BE IN AN ELEMENATRY SCHOOL BUT YEAH, I GO TO MIDDLE SCHOOL AND IM 11 :))