Should an 18 year old have to ask permission for friend(s) to come over to the house?

Question

Please don't get me wrong when I ask these questions about the kids. I love them very much. I just want to know how others deal with it and what do they do in certain situations.

We have an 18 year old son who just started jr. college. He is living at home and not working yet. We has two other children a girl who is 16 and another boy who is 10. We live in a three bedroom 1 1/2 bath house. We are lower middle class. I am telling you this so that you can get a little picture of how we live. Anways, my question is......should my 18 year old have to ask before he brings friend(s) over to the house? Came home today from work and him and his two friends were playing video games in the livingroom. I got some water and went to the room. Playing video games in the livingroom is not really permitted in our house cuz it is not necessary cuz we all have a television set in the room and also the plugs get messed up when you keep putting plugs in and out of the input and outputs. Anyways, it was okay this time cuz there were more than one friend over and his room is kinda small. He did not ask me or his mom if it was okay. Should he have asked?

Answer 1

well, it is your house and i'm sure he wouldn't mind if he had to ask if friends could come over.  if you have a good reason for them not to im sure he will understand.

Answer 2

Hi and yes I think so, weather you have two other kids at home or not. You need to know who is coming in and out of YOUR house.  P.S I don't have kids and I'm only 28  but that's just my opinion.

Answer 3

Yes, he should out of respect for you and your home. I could maybe understand during the day if it is only one or two and all they are doing is playing games. However, if he is having people over night or more than one or two even in the day, I think he should ask.

Answer 4

Im 18 and never ask if someone can come over. I dont know.

Did this problem just start? It seems like if he is 18 you should be used to him having friends over without asking, or he should know that he should ask.

Answer 5

it depends on the parents rules.......obviously

Answer 6

Yes he needs to ask,its your home and he just lives in it and must abide by house rules.He needs to show respect and if he can't, he can get his own house.

Answer 7

Tell him to grow up.  HE SHOULD HAVE ASKED.

Answer 8

I'm seventeen and I bring friends over the house all the time with out asking ... but if your unconfortable with it and hes living under your house than yes he should have to ask for sure

Answer 9

if the parents own the house, yes they should ask. but if the person is 18 and with their own house, or paying rent, then they should have the right to have someone over.

Answer 10

If he is your child i say yes. It is your house. And he is 18. It is respectful to ask, i still ask my parents.

Answer 11

I am 19, and my parents never mind if anyone is over, in fact they encourage this.

I guess every family is different though. If something bothers you tell him  

Answer 12

If your son friend is harm to you or the rest of your family then yes he should ask permission or not come at all

Answer 13

I'd ask  him to call you and ask you first...tell him you all ive in a small home and there sint much privacy as it is...but all in all, i think that should be the rule for all kids, 18 or not.

Answer 14

yes if the 18 yr old still lives at home he should ask permission

Answer 15

Only if they are packing heat.

Answer 16

As a courtesy, he should at least introduce his friends to you and let you talk to them about their families and where they come from and so on before he regularly has them over to your house. You absolutely have not only a right, but a duty to the little ones to screen any and all visitors to your home.

Answer 17

he may be an adult, but its your house, your tv, your living room, if it annoys you, tell him to be respectful and atleast ask before inviting over people...its your house! take control over it! good luck!!!!

Answer 18

yeah i think he should....

Answer 19

Does he pay rent?

If it is your house he should ask permission..It's like the rules...

Answer 20

Yes!! If you do not own it, ask whoever does. RESPECT!!!!

Answer 21

dang strait he has to ask!!

Answer 22

I think he should ask out of respect for you and the other members of your family.  

Answer 23

i moved back in with an aunt and uncle when i was 19 or 20, i had a few friends they had known for several years and that didnt seem to bother them if one of those friends were over. your kid may have a few friends like this, maybe its not a big deal to you (given its not late at night, then i had to ask) but no, my uncle didnt want to come home from work or wake up from a nap and see some stranger walking down the hall or on his couch.

Answer 24

If its not his house, then he has no right to do that. Tell him this.

Answer 25

i didnt read it all, but if they 18 year old does not own the house : yes they should ask for permission

Answer 26

yes cuz its n0t your house JK!

Answer 27

if you still live in your parent's house you should respect their rights and of course you should ask permission. you are asking them if it's okay if complete STRANGERS come into their house. if you don't want to be hassled with having to ask your parent's permission, then buck up and get your own house......then, you can  have all the people you want come over. otherwise, respect your parent's authority and have a little respect for them =]

Answer 28

I think it would be nice for him to ask but as long as he lives with yoiu he should alwayse half to ask because it is your house.

Answer 29

Personally, I think the 18 year old children needs to ask permission so that way you can be aware of what's happening.

Answer 30

He should ask permission. What if you had been having company that night and he didn't know. He should ask. It's not that difficult. All he has to do is call you up and say, "Hey can _______ and __________ come over to play video games and watch movies?"