Should an elder have the say, so in their passing, or stopped?

Question

My grandfather, lost his soul mate (grandma) two years ago, and since then he has been living for the day that he can go back to his beloved. They have been married since the age of 15, and stayed together through a loss of a child, and then some. When grandpa had a heart attack a month ago, he was resisitated when his pulse was no more. My father was asked to choose weather he was brought back or no, and since dad did not know what grandpa really wanted to choice was natural. Since then dad had a talk with grandpa and grandpa advised my father to let him go, he would rather be in the gates of heaven with his loving wife and child that await. My father has been dealing with the pain of loosing his father before he is even gone, but is exepting the happiness that awaits them both. The siblings of my father however are not pulling thier wieght, and are contesting the needs/desire of grandpa, this is causing more pain and grief for my dad and grandpa, I already know what should be done, but I guess I would like the feed back to comfort by thoughts

Answer 1

if your grandfather is lucid and can make decisions on his own without anyone being able to say that hes not in his right mind then he should be able to sign a D.N.R. (do not resuscitate) form and that takes the decision out of everyones hands but his own.

Answer 2

Your grandfather should take this terrible burden off your father's shoulders.  He can get a hospital social worker to give him the paper work leaving final instructions.  Including the Do Not Resusitate order.  Now that this is a worry your dad should talk to his father about doing this.  Your other family members are being selfish and if granddad chooses then his wishes will be followed.  The paper is a legal document and your dad will be off the hook.

Answer 3

darling ... this is not a easy thing what ever way that you look at it but yes he should have a say some things are just set to try us truthfull and it does make you a stronger person , though i no this cannot be easy to go through and though your dad has had the time to get used to lossing his dad , when the time comes it is still going to be hard , there is like people that can help deal with grief and it may help to talk to someone even for your dad to do so also , take the time and feel what you are feeling i no that this is a hard thing to do but it helps trust me , it will take time after wards to heal , so to speak but time is a great healer , it is not your faul or anyone elses about the other siblings that are not doing as much as they should though try to comfort your granddad and you dad , though dont keep all your feelings bottled up either , that is never a good thing , i think that you are going to be fine though and things will all be ok , but some times things have to be a certain way , just the l;aws of life i am afraid , chin up though and remember , everything will work out fine ,

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