Should both sets of parents be included on wedding invitations?

Question

Is it customary to include both the bride and the grooms parents on the invitations or just the parents that are hosting?

Answer 1

It's nice to put both sets of parents, regardless of who is hosting/paying for the wedding. A traditional invitation looks something like this:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith invite you to witness the marriage of their daughter,

Hannah Jane

to Robert Alan Jones

son of Mr. and Mrs. William Jones

on 25 June, 2008.

Any printing or stationary place will have samples of other invitation wording.

Answer 2

Traditionally whichever set of parents is hosting are the ones that get put on the invitation.

If both parents are helping out then include them both.

If neither are helping out and you're handling the wedding on your own then don't include either set of parents or include them both.

Answer 3

Its actually up to you but most only include the brides family if you have divorced parents and so does your groom then dont include the parents you may have some ppl become upset

Answer 4

My parents are hosting, but we did want his parents to be honored too, so we did the "son of __________" thing as well. Plus, it's helpful for those more distant relatives that may not know him as well as one of his parents.

Answer 5

all the suggestions listed are acceptable but if they dont work for you try:

together with their parents

john smith and jane doe

request your presence...

my parents are divorced (one is remarried) and his are still together so this is what we put in order to not have so many names crowding the invite.

we paid for it so it worked for us

hope this might help

Answer 6

If there is one thing that is obvious this day in age is do what you want.  Customs and traditions need not be followed to the letter.

I feel they  both deserve the respect to at least be mentioned.  They gave you both life and prepared you for what you are about to do and who you are about to become.

Don't you want to at least honor them?

Answer 7

I'm putting both:

Mr. & Mrs____________

request the honor of your presence of the marriage of their daughter::

__________

to

__________

son of Mr. & Mrs. __________

Answer 8

We didn't include any of  our parents; because they didn't pay for it. I think that may have something to do with it. If the bride parents are footing the bill; then I personally would put there names on the invites.

Congrats.,

Answer 9

Yes, they should be - it doesn't matter who is paying. It's a matter of respect, and showing who you two are the daughter of and son of.

Answer 10

i think it should be both parents but i guess if you payed for it all yourself then it should say mr tom smith and ms janet rose request your presence....

Answer 11

It's customary just to put the bride's parents. If the groom's family is helping to pay then they should be included.

Answer 12

Unless you are footing the whole bill. I would say Put both sets of Parents name on there , or it might cause some hurt feelings. Trust me I know First hansd.

Answer 13

Traditionally, you only list the parents who are hosting the event but I never liked that tradition personally.  I think it feels cold and starts things out on a bad foot.  The groom's parents, in my opinion, are a large part of the event because he wouldn't be here without them.  If he has great parents, then it's one way to acknowledge them.  To me, it depends on how involved & close the groom is to his parents.  If he's not close at all to them, then no, I wouldn't include them.

Answer 14

My parents are paying and his mother is doing squat. This is what our invitation says.

Mr and Mrs Sally Smith request you honor in the marriage of

their daughter Sherry smith to

John Doe

Son of Jane Doe.

Answer 15

no its hte bride parents that go on it im sure