Should children be allowed at weddings?

Question

I think that they should as it shows them many things that they will need in order to understand the meaning of marriage (even though some are so young) I believe it's a family event the children are what makes it also so special (they are so cute!) My cousin wouldn't allow children at his wedding, I was young so I wasn't able to go and it actually upset me.

Some people would disagree with me and it's a big topic at the moment. What do you think? Did you allow children at your wedding of not, why? Should they be allowed?

Answer 1

YES

Answer 2

Yes to drive the parents home....

But only if they have had less than 2 beers....

Answer 3

It is my first time to hear that they are not allowed. We allow them.

Answer 4

Of course they should! When did children stop being allowed at weddings?

I live in an European country and have never asked myself this question.Children have always been to weddings.If someone invited me and didn´t want my children to go ít will be of very bad manners.I wouldn´t go to the wedding,that´s one thing,and second,I don´t think I would speak to this person again.

Answer 5

well it depends on the culture and traditions, in my country for example...weddings start after 11 pm and the party last till morning next day (6-8 am)...and it takes place in luxurious castle-like halls and women wear high end designer haute couture and diamonds (much more dressier than the oscars) so it's unfair to keep children up that late, strapped in formal wear, asked to "behave" for hours which they fail to do and start running and shouting all over the place (runing the whole atmosphere)....so children are not allowed, except a few of the bride and grooms very close family and friends and they are only allowed for a short time to attend the ceremony (most of the time they are involved in it as flower girls or candle carriers...etc) and then are sent home to bed.

i guess in countries that weddings are much earlier in the day and aren't as fancy or formal...they should be allowed...can't think of a reason not to...

Answer 6

i waitressed at a wedding recently, they had very expensive food which was just wasted as the children wouldn't eat it, if I got married I would have children there as we have 4 ourselves but I would cater for them with regards to food and entertainment, I think it's alot to expect, particulary with young children, for them to behave for such a long day.

Answer 7

Personally, I think a wedding is about celebrating with everyone, and that includes children.

I have attended wedding with and without children, and the ones with children are a lot more fun, more people can attend because they can bring their children with them, and their is definitely a more family time.

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Answer 8

Well you are all going to jump down my throat now. We wouldn't have kids at our wedding. Number 1 : they can't behave in a formal environment. I have been to numerous weddings where there were kids and they ruined it for many people because of their behavior.  2: They waste food    3 : Parents won't control their kids because they are drinking and having fun so they just leave them to do what they want.

I would never be offended if my kids weren't allowed to a wedding. We actually like going out to a formal dinner or occasion with out our kids. It gives us time off.

Answer 9

of course children should be allowed to weddings!!! I just think that when the reception comes to a certain time that it is then home time for them as they don't to see everybody getting drunk and maybe other things that might happen! I think there is a limit

Answer 10

yes definately, there's no reason why anyone would not want children at their wedding unless they were uptight! I can understand not allowig children to o to funerals until they are a bit older.

Answer 11

yes of course they should be allowed. Weddings are a family occasion from the youngest to the eldest. I had children at my wedding and it is lovely to look back at the photos of happy family times.

Answer 12

Every person has to be paid for at the reception (there are no discounts for kids) If you can afford to invite 100 people and allow kids you will probably only be able to invite immediate family

Kids are very disruptive, they dont sit still or keep quiet.

I had no kids at my wedding, my children have been to 2 weddings. But they see brides on TV all the time and run around with nets over their heads as veils so they are not missing out.

Weddings are overrated, you should save your money for setting up your new house and celebrate when you beat the divorce statistics and celebrate anniversaries!

Answer 13

yes they should definatly be allowed, we had loads of children at our wedding, and if any one ever invited me to there wedding but told me that our children couldnt come then i would tell them what to do with there invitation. children are part of the familly and should be involved, its also a magical day for them aswell, they shouldnt be left out.

Answer 14

Skyli I come from a big coloured family where their is tons of kids. And even after having the whole family angry at me, I would still not invite kids!

As you said they dont undersand the meaning and I would just freak upon seeing kids running around through speeches, not being quiet at the church, shouting and screaming over sweeties at my reception and the part I hate the most is when they start fiddling with the decorations and chase the blady balloons across the floor where people are dancing.

When my day comes, I wanna enjoy it and not have to tell my friends and family to keep their kids in check. Also I know way too many people that cant control their kids, rather their kids control them!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you know what I mean

Answer 15

Of course they should! I can't think of one single reason why not, and a great many why they should - most of which have already been given. We had children present at ours, and take our children when we go to other people's.

What a stupid idea, though, forbidding them to come!

(By the way, forgive Aziya - he's gone into chip-on-the-shoulder negative cretin mode.)

Answer 16

Only if they are well behaved and unfortunately many children nowadays act like little monsters because their parents seem to have no control over them.

Children of course like adults can have an off day but if they are known to be rude and bad mannered then I would not want them at my wedding.

Answer 17

Well I am getting married in 8 months,I am the first person in my family to get married,I have 11 cousins under the ago of 13,what would my wedding be like without them?I have a lovely wedding venue that gives me the option of paying 50 percent less for a special childrens meal.

Answer 18

A wedding is about family not having kids is a contradiction to the whole idea.

Mind you

Judging by your contributions in this forum I can understand why he did not want you there.

Answer 19

Wow that's a bit harsh. I've never been to a wedding where children weren't allowed. Usually it's an occasion for ALL the family to enjoy. It sounds a bit boring just asking adults to be there. I guess they didn't want any little people running around making noise and stealing any of "their" limelight. Definitely not cool. :-/

Answer 20

It's totally up to the couple.  I allowed kids at my wedding because I had a destination wedding, and I wanted my guests to bring their families.  And I had an informal afternoon ceremony with lunch afterward.  But I have been to weddings where kids talked through the ceremony and ran around like maniacs during the reception, completely unrestricted by their idiot parents.  I can totally understand how a couple (who know their families and can anticipate the level of control parents will exert over their "little darlings") might want to eliminate the potential of disruption and discomfort to their other guests.  Also, feeding your guests can be super expensive.  I've been to weddings where the meal was $100US-plus per person.  If I were a bride/groom trying to control costs, a logical place to start might be to not have kids who probably won't finish or appreciate such a meal.  So I think the couple's decision as to whether kids are allowed should be respected.

Answer 21

Why ever not?

Answer 22

My personal view is that children should be allowed at weddings. I feel that if my children are not welcomed, then I am not welcomed. We allowed children when we got married.

I have seen the tendency in South Africa that a lot of wedding invites clearly state that children are not welcomed. That is not right for me.

I think the main reason is the cost that goes with catering nowadays is one of the main reasons for this move. I have seen in so many instances where provisions were made for kids and the wastage of food by them.

Answer 23

Yes, definitely, children are part of the family. But, unfortunately weddings are expensive.  The sad part it that the bride and groom are likely to be planning a family in the future, and will only THEN realise that children are a part of their lives, and all other people in this world.  Luckily, many people can change their views.

We always went to all our cousins´  weddings.   And the whole clan was always there.  My dad had 7 brothers and sisters, so you can imagine how many kids were buzzing around at the weddings!!

Answer 24

A wedding is a family affair, and what is family if there are no children?

I think that If I was invited to a wedding but that there is a barring on children, I would refuse to go.

Besides, a wedding reception is not supposed to be a booze up, but a happy, family style party where the two families get to know one another better...