Should his habit hurt me?

Question

I recently discovered that my fiance has been looking at p**n. I knew that he looked at it before we got together (he was a single guy so of course) but once he realized that I was not ok with it he stopped. We have been together for 3 years now and I found out about a week ago that he was doing it again. He didn't lie to me about it when I asked and let me know everything that I wanted to, which I respect so much. But it really hurt me. He says its just something to look at and that it means nothing. I need a guys point of view... what does it really mean to you? Does he want something more?

We are a very sexually active couple, and yes we are good in that area. But I can't help but feel like I am doing something wrong... Please, I need a guys point of view.

Answer 1

replace his stash with naughty pictures of yourself, he can't complain.. well he better not anyway!

Answer 2

Women always make the mistake of connecting the watching of p**n to the relationship. p**n isn't a replacement for the wife. p**n isn't a comparison to the wife. p**n isn't even related to the relationship at all. It's p**n. It doesn't mean we're unhappy. It doesn't mean we want to cheat. It doesn't mean you're unattractive. It doesn't mean we're looking for something more. It doesn't mean you're bad in bed. It's just p**n to us. p**n is completely separate from how we feel about you in exactly the same way that watching Star Wars has nothing to do with the relationship.

Having said all that. There is a problem on the day he chooses p**n over you. Then you should be insulted.