Should i accept my mother-in-laws apology?

Question

a couple of days ago my mother-in-law and i got into a verbal argument so during the argument i accidentally cursed at her (i said f*** you, i didn't mean it.) so she slapped me across the face. after she slapped me i started crying. just today she came over to apologize but i don't know if i should forgive her. should i forgive her? did i deserve the slap from her?my husband did talk to my mother-in-law and she was kind of upset he took my side.

Answer 1

not knowing what the argument was about that lead her to slap you in the face, it's really hard to say. She said she was sorry but have you said you were sorry for cursing at her? Both of you need to sit down and talk this through, then deciede if you should forgive her.

Answer 2

you could accept it. or not. it all depends on whether you want to deal with drama for years or not. not to mention, bad feelings between you and she could toll on your hubbie (and/or your children/her grandchildren). she shouldn't have slapped you, but you two probably shouldn't have been arguing so heatedly in the first place. was it so important?

Answer 3

Yes, accept the apology. Both of you were wrong and she's taken the initial step of trying to make it right. Now, it's your turn to do your part.  

Answer 4

To me, it sounded like both of you weren't being yourselves at the time of the arguement~ u said sth you didn't mean, and she probably slapped you bc it was a heated moment ~

honestly, i don't think she'd slap you unless she thinks of you as her daughter/ family... has she ever been mean to you since you and your husband got married? is she an unreasonable mother-in-law? has she been bugging you and P-ing you off since you're married to her son?

i think your apology is very sincere... she understood that you weren't ready to accept her apology for slapping you, so she kissed you and said she's sorry, then she left so that you have time to decide whether to accept what she said or not. in a way, she's quite respectful.. and for a mother to apologize to her daughter in law after both have hurt each other, to me it took a lot of guts...

if you feel like you can not forgive her, then give yourself some time.

when you are ready, call her up and tell her you're sorry for cursing, bc that wasn't you speaking. you got caught up in the heated arguement and you didn't mean to curse at her at all. thank her for apologizing and then say sorry to her again.

your mother-in-law will be there for the rest of your life, and she will be the grandma of your children... so try not to resent her for slapping you... believe that she loves you and so she slapped you but she feels horrible about it...

it'll take time to totally forgive and forget, but when you're family, you can do it.  

Answer 5

How many times and for how many days are you going to ask this same question?

You where wrong and immature to speak to her this way.

As I answered you yesterday, I would never ever of spoken to my mother-in-law like that.  I can't believe your husband stood for you treating his mother like that.  

Of course you should accept you are just as much at fault, if not more, as she is.  If you would of never spoken to her like that it never would of happened.  This generation seems to be much more tolerant in the use of foul language, which in my opinion is immature in itself.  Then you use one of the worst foul words on top of it.  Not a smart move.  I think she is being very generous in her apology to you.

Answer 6

Did you deserve to be slapped?  No.  Did she deserve to have obscenities screamed at her?  No (no matter what you were arguing about, and saying something like that is never 'accidental' so stop trying to use that excuse).  You BOTH need to apologize and stop acting like children.  And you need to learn to discuss your disagreements like an adult.

By the way, "I slapped you because I love you" is complete BS.