Should i accept ?

Question

Choosing a life partner is a tough decision. i am from orthodox family. Till now i have seen three gals. First two out of choice and now am struck with the last one. Tomorrow i have to give my final decision. If i reject i am afraid i may not get better girl. If i accept then i feel i have compromised and could have got better girl. I am confused. So i tossed the coin if heads i accept, if tails i reject. 1st time i tossed i got heads and i was not satisfied. So i decided to toss 5 times and take best of 5. 3 out of 5 times its heads!!!. Then again i thought how can this coin decide my life. Its 4 AM!!! i haven't slept yet. So i tossed coin to decide whether to sleep or not. If heads i sleep, if tails i dont. 3 out of 5 times tails!!!. What to do?:)

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Answer 1

If you are not happy with the choices, then wait for the right one. Are these picked for you by family? Need more info please.

Answer 2

Answer this question, and maybe you'll have answered your own question. Do you love her?

Wow. In that case I would ask, do you want to have to say to your wife, "I married you because I was afraid I wouldn't get a better girl?" If you decide to marry her, you should probably decide first that you are going to love her. Love is not based on the recipient, but the giver.

Answer 3

Life partner?  Waa haa...Good luck to you on that!  Are you planning to her chained in the basement so she can get away and stay for life?  Otherwise, dude, wake up and smell the coffee, the chances of "life" are better as a prison sentence than a relationship

Answer 4

Pray to the Flying Spaghetti Monster.

Seriously, how the heck did you get the delusion that this is an R&S question ? Sheesh.

Answer 5

It seems to me like you don't really love the girl.  Don't marry her just because you're afraid you won't find anyone better.  You'll know when you find the right girl.  Everything will feel right.  I wish you the best of luck in your decision.  May God bless you!    

Answer 6

You should...pick the one that you...like. If you don't like any of them, don't pick any of them.

Seriously, you don't need someone on the internet or a coin to tell you this, do you?

Answer 7

You're making this far too difficult.

Let the three women be represented by variables s=v, c=x, t=y and z (an independent variable).

Consider the effect of these transformations on interval of the following relationship:

d(s^2) = d(x^2) – [(c^2)d(t^2)]

Substituting for x and t from the above transformations one obtains:

d(s) = d(x^2) – [(c^2)d(t^2)] = (g^2)[d(x^2)+[(v^2)d(t^2)] –[2v)(dx)(dt) – [(c^2)d(t^2) – [(v^2]/(c^2)d(x^3)] + 2v(dx)(dt)

= d(x^2) – c^2(dt^2)

= ds^2

Generalizing to four dimensions we see that the relationship interval

d(s^2) = -c^2(d(t^2)) + d(x^2) + d(y^2) + d(z^2)

is invariant.

If you solve for s, c, t and z and substitute v for s, x for c and y for t (assuming that z remains an independent variable), you will find your answer.  

Good luck!

Answer 8

Do the girls get a say in this, are they up all night tossing too? This obviously a stressful situation and your decision is a very important one. I have a friend who has had an arranged marriage and she was very sceptical about it working but it has been very successful; I'm from a western background but I'm not sure that selecting a partner based on how sexually attracted your are to them works- see divorce stat's for details!

I'm not sure how much time you have spent with these girls but you are looking for the woman you will spend your life with, the mother of your children and the woman who will help to care for your parents as they age. You are looking for intelligence, compassion and maturity. You are going to build your life with this woman. Did you feel a connection with any of these girls? What do you know about their educational back-ground? Go with your gut feeling but be prepared to work at it. All marriages are a leap in the dark and we all feel scared whether we admit it or not. Good luck whatever you decide let us know what you decide! Best wishes

Answer 9

Ummm...yeah, you're supposed to get married because you're madly in love, not at the toss of a coin.