Should i be angry with my best friend?

Question

My best friend and her boyfriend of now, 6 or 7 months have been getting closer and closer all summer and they have been doing everything under the sun except having s*x. My best friend and i have been over and over about how dangerous it is to be doing that at our age and how much we both wanted each other to stay virgins. She promised me that she would not lose her virginity until at least the age of 16, and i PROMISED her the same. A few days ago she lost her virginity and I'm not quite sure how to feel because she's so excited about it and I'm upset that she didn't keep her promise, and in my opinion, it was a promise for safety. Do you think i should be mad at her for not keeping her promise?

Answer 1

16 is still too young to be doing it too in my opinion. but I definitly know how you feel,  i made a pact like that with a close friend and she broke her promise as well. lost her virginity.

I think you should tell her to atleast be very careful. my friend ended up getting pregnant. so shes dealing with the consequences.

just be there for her i guess. she lost it already so there is nothing to take it back. good luck!

Answer 2

I'd talk to her about it.

Tell her how you feel and stuff.

That you wanted her to keep her promise.

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Answer 3

maybe not mad exactly more like disappointed. at least she told you the truth cuz she could have easily lied. what you should probably do is tell her how you feel. and if she doesnt take your feeling under consisderation then if she gets pregnant or get some STD then its a hard lesson thats shes gonna have to learn and if your a good friend then youll still be there for her if that does happen

Answer 4

Mail an anonymous letter to her Mom, letting her know that her daughter needs to get on the pill.  

Answer 5

u should be just upset to her, but don't break the friendship...

tell her about ur feelings, and ask her why she broke the promise she made......don't yell at her or anything

i should say that's st**** of her to lose her virginity now..at least stay by her side, just in case anything bad happens....u r her friend for a long time right????  and u should always be...

Answer 6

dont be mad..

you can be the bigger person and look over it.

talk to her and say what your morals are

i mean 16 is still young.. do you mean oral or hardcore s*x haha

cuz i know alot of kids that r 14 and do oral

i think she will be sorry that she did it

Answer 7

I know how dangerous it is, and how u feel, but u know what people say? Everything's fair in love and war, and also, love is blind. So Trust me, your friend didnt intentionally hurt u, she has no control over herself now. What u can do is talk to her about this and convince her how dangerous this can be, but then, i know u dont wanna hear it, but it IS definitely her life and her choice, I wont say its none of your business, u definitely have a lot of right over your best friend, but if u try to force her, or threat her or something, she will never listen- it will just ruin your friendship. And yes, every human being deserves some personal space, and she too has every right to make her decisions about her bf. U need to understand this, I feel u are being a bit over protective.  

Answer 8

she's excited wow..wouldn't tat be funny if she got preggo? lol wouldn't be so exciting then...but I would I would be like first you ditch me for im an now you go back on promises what happened to her friendship ok ok I have a feeling she is going to get  pregnant or he is going to dump her pretty soon i just know it if that does happen contact me if not oh well butyah be mad at her 4 awhile and then forgive her after she hangs out with you more  

Answer 9

well i'm not going to say that her life is her life ok. i don't think you should angry at her thou, i think u should be happy for her that she was ready and able to trust the guy that she is with enough to loose her virginity. u have to be able to trust the guy u loose it to and i would be happy for her. I'm sure if u had a boyfriend and u felt ready she would be happy for u. so i really think u should just forgive her and be happy for her that she game enough to loose it before she was 16. if u don't then i think u might have wrecked a friendship and i'm sure u don't want that. do u?

Answer 10

i wouldn't be mad at her i would definitely be upset. i would ask her or actually say that i'm not happy that you choose him over our promise to each other i thought i meant more then that.i don't know if i'd say that maybe you'll choose too, but i definitely would be disappointed in her just because its not right to have s*x before marriage. don't' be mad just be there for her in case she regrets her decision later and tell here she can become celibate again with you

Answer 11

You should talk to her and tell her that she broke a promise to you and you found that promise to be very important. Tell her how you feel. If she is your best friend then you two can sit down and discuss this issue and work something out. Let her know how much you care about her safety and you don't want anything bad to happen to her. I personally don't think you should be mad at her, you need to understand her situation too. Just go out to lunch one day or whatever makes you feel comfortable and talk to her about it.

Answer 12

well first off it depends on how old the 3 of you are... but a promise is a promise plus if she is throwing it up in your face then you don't need a friend like that because next she will be pushing you to  try s*x.. You should go ahead a keep the promise you made but make it a promise to yourself instead.