Should i be concerned about my sister's parenting? veryyy worried?

Question

im not sure if i have the right to judge, cuz im not a mom, but here goes: we were at a lawyers office today discussing something and my mom couldn't babysit and i guess her husband didn't feel like taking off work (he doesn't like to take care of the baby anywayz) and my niece started crying a little bit for like a minute shrilling. then she started babbling and just being a LITTLE loud ya know? but u could hear over her fine. nobody complained. i think my sister was just getting annoyed cuz she wanted 2 b held one minute and the next she wanted 2 walk around. she didn't do this the whole time. when we got in the car she said she was being horrible. i didn't think she was that bad. she saide she could killl her. i think she was just talking out of frustration, but still. she gets real impatient with the baby. she curses at it and stuff. the father hardly takes care of her, just plays with her. my parents know she cusses at her, and they tell her its not good, but she doesn't listen.

Answer 1

Your sister's a rotten mother and wasn't ready for kids. She just sounds immature and unprepared, but I don't think she'll really hurt her. Still... poor kid.

Answer 2

lol, until you're a mom of a toddler ....... shush it!

Answer 3

Listen there is no perfect parent. I love my kids and ar eloving to them but at times I say stuff or do things that I shouldnt or could have handeled better. Its hard being a parent. I never told my kids I could kill them, but dont judge her until you become one. Everyone makes mistakes. I think that if the father is around and plays with her, thats all the daughter really cares about. She doesnt care about finaces. At least she has a daddy. SO what if hes not perfect. My daughter father doesnt give me money, always breaks promises, and comes around like once every two months. But when hes there it means the world to her and she doesnt care about that stuff. someones once said.. just becuase a person doesnt love you the way you want them to, doesnt mean they dont love you with all they have. Give her a break.

Answer 4

Every mother gets frustrated with her child from time to time.  I don't like to admit it, but I've cursed at my kids before.  Unless your sister is showing signs of abuse, there's nothing to be worried about.  She was just annoyed by her daughter's behavior.

Answer 5

She went over the line when she said she could kill her.  Sometimes when you have kids you just need a bit of silent time and maybe your sister was thinking she was being a bit too talkative in there.  Sometimes it's hard to even hear yourself when your kids are constantly talking.  I can understand her frustration, but she was out of line when she said she could kill her.

Answer 6

She could possibly have post partum depression.  But it could also be that she really just needs a break from time to time, since like you said it appears that she doesn't seem to get any.

Answer 7

My kids have frustrated me to tears many times before and I wanted to wring their necks, but I have never once cursed at them and would never say I could kill them. How old is your sister? It is so hard being a mom at times it can be suffocating especially if she is getting no help from dad. I would not talk to your parents, I would talk to your sister and just tell her it makes you sad she feels angry enough at an infant that she would say and do those things. Try not to say it in a judging tone or she will just go on the defensive. I would also offer to babysit once a week or something so she can have some time away from the baby. But eventually that will sink in and the child will believe it and repeat it. A child should never be talked to in that way.

Answer 8

It is important for you to make an immediate report to your local children's protective services agency. (Just read them exactly what you've written here.) Call the police for the phone number. The report can be made anonymously. Your sister will never know you made a call. You won't get a report of what they determine, but they are required by law to do an assessment of your relative's parenting skills. If they determine there's no problem you've done the best you can.

Answer 9

She sounds either frustrated and tired, maybe a little depressed or a little immature.  I think all parents loose it from time to time.  The only concerning thing is that you seem to be saying she swears at the baby a lot.  I think she might benefit from seeing a conselor.  At the very least she needs to talk to the baby's father and have him give her a break from time to time.  Even a few hours every other week can make a huge difference in an overwhelmed mom's attitude.  Maybe you could offer to babysit for a day every other week or even once a month?  It may help.

Answer 10

If the father doesn't take care of the baby, the mom is probably stressed. And if she is constantly taking care of the baby then she will get annoyed with her.

I don't think your sister is actually a bad parent but is tired of being a mom ALL the time. She might not want to ask for help...is she stubborn?

I think you should be more concerned about your sister than how she is parenting. She may be depressed and the only person around to take out her emotions on is the baby.

Answer 11

Cussing at kids is not a big deal.

Answer 12

Well, I think at some point every mother feels that way, most just don't vocalize it. I don't know how old your niece is, but your sister may have post-partum depression and it would be important to address the issue. So yes, I would tell your parents just incase she does have the depression because that can cause all kinds of problems.

Answer 13

She sounds like she just needs help! She may have post partum depression but even if she doesn't caring for a baby is a hard job and she sounds like she desperately needs a break.