Should i be mad? how mad?

Question

Ok tonight was supposed to be my birthday dinner so we got a babysitter and my husband and I went out to dinner and a movie - everything went GREAT... before we headed to the sitters, we wanted to stop at home and possibly fool around and have s*x. Time went by too quickly and we didn't get an opportunity to actually do anything. He said I was distracting him and then he had to go to the restroom and honestly I wasn't really in the mood. We had to get the baby by 12:30. He got really pissed at me and started acting really rude and distant.

Anyways, we promised my mom we would house sit tonight and not only did he refuse to go with me to pick up our daughter but he acted all dramatic when I left and now Im here at my mom's house with my baby!

Answer 1

I think you have a right to be mad. He has shirked all his responsibilty cos he didnt get his end away. However I am curious to know what you did that was distracting to him, I think that's the key to what set this all off.

Either way he should still have come to get your JOINT baby and helped with the house sitting which is a joint responsibilty if it was agreed that way at the outset. PLUS it was your birthday, he should have been concentrating on making it a good day for you!

He is still a child himself. He will need YOU to apologise, the things us girls have to do!

Answer 2

Sounds to me like you have two babies.

Answer 3

Sounds like you have two babies, a little one and the big one you are married to.

Answer 4

Your glossing over the reason your husband got so mad at you after the dinner and a movie.  The is a reason he got really pissed at you.  That is the reason he got rude and distant and refused to got get your daughter.

Yes he acted dramatic when you left . . . but you want to know if YOU should be mad . . . .but what is it that YOU did that got your husband all upset.  For someone to get all that (pissed, rude distant and dramatic) you did something but have trouble seeing it.  He's the one that IS mad and you can't see it.

Answer 5

Welcome to marriage, motherhood, and men.  Not sure what you think you should be angry about.

Answer 6

He's just having male PMS.

Just leave it be and it will blow over.

Answer 7

You are not telling the whole story. Maybe you said some things you shouldn't have said. And no, you shouldn't be mad. He will get over it. You get over it too. Life goes on. Don't let it be that important to you to be "right".

Answer 8

s*x is a really powerful and potent and important part of a relationship.  If he thought he was going to get it and didn't, it probably really hurt him.  That doesn't really excuse him treating you badly but it might explain it.

Answer 9

Actually sound like the two of you needed the time apart so that each of you can cool of, so to speak. When you get home he will be totally different and will realize how he kind of messed things up. I think you will get that extra gift tonight when the baby is asleep. If you know what I mean!