Should i call him dad, should i call her mom?

Question

my mom and dad got a divorce when i was 5 years old and my mom has a new boyfriend and my dad has a new girlfriend, well they are both engaged.

i live with my mom across the country from my dad and her and her boyfriend are going to move in together with me and i am wondering if i should call him dad? cuz i want to but i dont cuz he might make a big deal out of it.

my dad lives with his girlfriend and they have been living together for about 2 or 3 years and i was wondering if i should call her mom? same concepts.

and my mom and her boyfriend have been dating for like 3 years now.

Answer 1

Neither are your parents and neither should be called mom or dad.  If acceptable to them, call them by their first names.    

Answer 2

i would wait untill they are married!  if they have new partner's the new partners have accepted you already!

Answer 3

I would wait until they are married, but I think the people who would answer this best are the people involved. Talk with your mom & dad, tell them that you aren't sure how you should address the new spouses to be. Tell them that although they are your mom and dad you feel that you could be ready to address the step parents as such and do not want to hurt them by doing so.  It will show matury and respect. Good luck.

Answer 4

Don't call them "mom" and "dad".  It could hurt your real parents feelings.  I have never expected my step-daughter to call me "mom" because she had a mom.  I met her dad when she was 4 years old.  She's 13 now and still doesn' call me mom.  It isn't necessary.  It isn't something I have ever wanted her to call me either.  She has a mother and one mother per child is enough, trust me.

Maybe you could come up with a special name for the step-parents if you feel close to them....you know, the way kids do for grandparents.

Answer 5

Dont say anything, leave them and live smartely in life n marry with ur love urgently.

Answer 6

Call your DAD your DAD...call your MOM your MOM.  

make it easy on yourself.  you still have your REAL parents around.

Answer 7

A parent is what a parent does. If your father is a good father and makes his best effort to be in your life, he should be allowed to keep his title of dad and father. If your mom's boyfriend marries your mom and makes his best effort to be like a father to you, then come up with a nickname that will let him know you care but respect your father. I would suggest something like "s-pop" for step-father. I am sure that if you let them know that you care and ask them to put your minds together, you can come up with a cool nickname that will make everybody happy. Always keep in mind that, like in sport, the title has to be earned and you should never feel that you have to call them something just to make them "feel" better.