Should i date him or not?

Question

I've meet this CUTE deputy sheriff he's hilarious, nice, sweet, always has me laughin but my mother really doesnt want me datin him cause she says officers r cocky, mean, controlin and have no patience. If i get into a relationship wit him it will b hard 2 end it....

Should i give him chance or jus leave him alone????

Answer 1

Problem with you is if you can't listen to your mom who knows you better, why would you listen to us being totally strangers. I bet you're not a young gil anymore so you know what you really like or not. If you can't trust yourself then you shouldn't trust anybody.

Answer 2

well juge him first , is he really nice or he is nice and sweet just with you, and your mom might have more experience than you , am i right? anyway it was my opinion, thanx

Answer 3

Your mother is not far from the truth because cops get away with behavior that would put the common man in jail. They make the news when they kill their spouse. How ever its not likely all cops act on their power in their personal lives.

Let an early date be with his family. See how he treats his mom. How is he with pets?

Ask questions. How does he feel about a woman working, making more than he does?

Does he ever do the dishes or some other house hold chore that isn't typically male designated?

How does he feel about kids?

Could he ever raise another man's son?

What would be his first thought if he couldn't reach you by phone for hours?

Get a list of questions from  a center for abused women on signs and symptoms of a potential abuser.

All these suggestions can provide clues into his personality.

Take your time. I don't think its fair to put all of anything into one box and say that its the only truth but I do pay attention to averages and hints.

Remember everyone is on their best behavior early on. He has those qualities and that's great but what are some of his lesser traits, and could you handle them long term?

Thats questions that every one should ask, male or female cop or waiter etc.

Answer 4

Your mother stereotyped him because of his profession! Just because a person holds a certain job doesn't mean they fit the norm. I think you should do what makes you feel happy....if you like him then date him.  

Answer 5

Do you want to live for you or for your mother?  I think your mother is being very narrow-minded by labelling this guy because of his career.  Has she ever met him?

In the end if you want to be happy you need to live your life, not your mother's idea for your life.  

If you like him and he makes you laugh and is not abusive than I would say that is a pretty good reason to date him.

Answer 6

everybody is not the same so try the relationship and see what it turn out to be

Answer 7

Go for it.