Should i divorce him? Help!?

Question

My husband of 5 years thinks that i should seek treatment for my depression and says that he has to focus on earning money . he thinks i should be emotionally strong enough to deal with my problems. My depression started because he is very suspicious of me and thinks I am going to have an affair. I am not cheating on him and have never cheated on him. His mistrust is causing me depression.Also, he has hit me before. His family doesnt treat me with love. I feel that he doesnt love me. Is it practical to remain married for the convenience of it all or shall I divorce him?

Answer 1

If he is suggesting treatment, go to counseling and take him with you.  Then you can truly make an educated decision.  It may be all your hubby needs to change his part or all you need to change yours.  Don't be too quick to give up.  You've already made it further than a lot of couples do, and that means you have something they didn't.  Get counseling first; then decide.

Answer 2

No wonder you're depressed.  Your husband is a jerk!  Look, his behavior is nothing but an obvious attempt to control you and keep you believing that he is superior and you need him.  You're not the one with the problem here... he is.  He is making every effort to make you feel insecure and second guess yourself, and it's beginning to work.  A man who loves and trusts you will not do the following:

1. He will not accuse you of affairs if you've given no reason for him to distrust you.

2. He will NEVER lay his hands on you in anger.  There is no excuse for physical violence.

3. He will not brush aside your feelings and tell you to seek therapy for issues he's helping to create.

He needs counseling just as much, if not more, than you do.  You need to be firm with him and tell him that you need to seek counseling together.  If he's not willing to go, you should leave him and seek therapy on your own to overcome these issues.  Don't permit this man to control your thoughts and cause you to feel that you are less a person.  You deserve better.

Answer 3

I would focus on yourself for a while. If you are depressed, who cares what he says? Do you like to feel like that? Go see your doctor and get help for it FOR YOU.

As for the other, if your husband is violent, then he's the one with the problem. That is unacceptable. Tell him that you won't live life like that and he needs to get help or you'll go. Be firm and take control of that situation. He sounds like he has a self esteem issue.

Answer 4

Try marriage counseling if that doesn't work life is to short you need to find somebody that loves and believes in you  

Answer 5

Only you know if you should divorce him. If there is no trust in the relationship it's time to move on. Have you given him a reason to think you are cheating?

Answer 6

You should. Don't let the problems carry on with you the rest of your life. Be strong and find you own true love.