Should i end my 6 year relationship?

Question

ive been with my boyfriend for 6 years going on 7. i started dating him when i was 16 and he was 19. im now 22 and lately ive been feeling different. i think a lot about my future and success to me is my number one goal. throughout my relationship i've felt like ive been stopped from things that i love doing. for example, i'm a dancer and a dance choreographer but i have stopped because my boyfriend didnt seem to like the idea. i am also interested in becoming a flight attendant simply because i am attracted to it. but i havent pursued that career because of him. and i understand him,choosing that career is tough because it considers constantly traveling and it will ruin the relationship. but lately ive been feeling like all my life i've been stopped from what i want to do. i dont want to be 30 years old and regret of not doing things. im still young but i dont want to have that state of mind. i want to go out there and do it. figure out what i want in life, figure out more about myself. i talked to my boyfriend, and we were in a point of breaking up, which i felt ready for it. but hes not. hes not mentally or emotionally ready. he has goals for himself and he includes me in it. and its selfish of me not including him. another thing i have to mention...throughout my 6 year relationship, i have cheated on him. ive slept with 6 guys. i promised myself to stop and change the way i am, and i tried my hardest to put all my effort in my relationship. and in my heart i felt like i was doing fine. but as of right now, im still sleeping with a guy. when it comes to our intimacy, im not physically turned on. i dont like having s*x with him. i always come with an excuse of not wanting to. and when we do, i tell him to rush. we also talked about this before...sometime last year. we wanted to talk to a councelor. but i thought it was going to be useless. when i have s*x with the other men, i do get aroused and i do reach the point of o****m. in my heart i know im hurting him, and the fact t hat he doesnt know hurts me the most. hes a great guy. any woman would love to have him. but i feel like maybe i got in this relationship too soon. hes ready to settle down. and im not. im barely trying to figure out what i want. im so confused. i really dont want to hurt him anymore...and i know i will keep doing what im doing. do you believe is best to end my relationship and figure out what i want in my life? please help

Answer 1

Hon,

You already know what you should do. You might have asked here to reaffirm that, but in the end you know.

You have goals for yourself. You need to pursue them.

You will never be happy if you don't.

You are right to listen to your heart. It will always tell you want you should do.

I wish you the Very Best Wishes!

Answer 2

You've answered your own question, hon. All you need is for us out here to tell you you're right. End it.  

Answer 3

dont feel like reading all of that, so no.

Answer 4

from the way you were talking plus cheating on him

i think you already know the answer of what to do.

you should break up now before you hurt him even

more in the long run. just tell him your young your

not ready to settle down you have alot of things you

would like to do before you get really serious with

someone and you feel he's not the right guy for you.

best of luck.