i have been asking for some help/advice in handling the situation with my parents on the subject of boyfriends,i'm 28,i live at home yes i know say what you will. And as we know are parents are all different as parents and people and so are the relationships they have with us/we have with them. Because of this,which causes problems and a few more serious problems with my dad,i am unable to involve them with boyfriends,nor do they want to know,so being unable to have things excepted means other things like bringing them to the house,the obvious place when you are still living at home,plus they would be there to see you or your family as a whole anyway,or taking them with me to things all general stuff very difficult,some have said you have to stand upto them and make changes,but sometimes things are impossible,some say this is not good cause some would see it as part of living at home thing,but they will always be the same then and if you have any type of family at all how can you have boyfriend/husband ther not involved with,
whereas on the other hand others have said your under there roof so live with it,thats coming from people who haven't had as bad situations,but surely thats not right as whether they get involved and encourage things or not,they know you will have a man/men in your life so if its not excepted then when will it be,and also been told to now at this age get my life together and move out,then involve them as much or as litle as i/they want,plus may be easier to broach subjects,but some who are normal family and close say oh thats not right or wrong or bit weird but i said we all have family/parents and just cause we all still speak and are in oneanothers life doesn't mean as weirs as it is that everything else follows suit.
My mum had boyfriends when she wa younger but as her parenst were and it was a different generation,they didn't all come in be involved with things,and her dad disliked a few,but it was more the done thing that when you'd been with someone a while,eg going to have a future with she introduced him,they knew eachothers parents and went to eachothers houses,so thats bloody unfair cause its not about that with mine,so i've said to my mum how would you have liked it if your parents had said we don't want to know and you can't bring him anywhere! turns out as c**p as my dad is he ended up not always visiting her parents when she did,and hasn't come with us to alot of family things cause of different reassons. Anyway i hope i haven't babbled on too much,its just i feel like not doing anything with a situation like this,but then others have said you have to live!
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