Should i feel stupid and be offended ? ?

Question

me and my bf were talking about our grades and i must say my grades are NOTHING compared to his...i feel stupid and offended when he has gd grades, yes im jelous, yes i want grades like his, i feel stupid when he tells me of all the stuff he is good at and im gd at hardly enything..... it makes me feel bad.....should i feel this way? or focus on the stuff IM gd at ? i just dont know tho,and he is better at me at nearly everything, it sucks.. i fear,he thinks im stupdi tho he has said to me he would never and never would or had found me stupid .

Answer 1

i definitely think you should focus on the things that you are good at--you said he's better at a lot of things but it seems like grades are the biggest things

have you ever heard the quote "don't let school get in the way of your education"?

there are tons of other things you can learn about and be really good at besides school subjects-don't limit yourself or think that he must be better because he gets better grades!!

and he said to you that he has/never will think you are stupid so don't worry!

i hope seeing this from an outsider's perspective has helped!!

Answer 2

I think if he is boasting, just leave him and don't be jealous about him because you have your own life.

Answer 3

its ok to feel this way. just focus on UR positive points! maybe ur not einstein but ur cute and a great kisser? ;-)

Answer 4

You should be happy for him. Hes making good grades, you sound a little selfish. Maybe you should be happy for him, and if hes doing so good, it should give you inspiration to do good as well. And he even told you that he has never thought you were stupid. Just work harder and be proud of his accomplishments.

Answer 5

be happy for him, but tell himm not to brag, it makse u feel bad.

i'm kinda like that. i get grades on how i do in class, not what i know. i can pass a class without knowing a thing, and fail a class while knowing ALL the ansers, my gf usually does what she can and otehr than skipping a few projects, she gets grades on what she knows, so i cna know more than her on something, but fail while she's lost but trying and have a b. she knows this and says i'm smarter than her, when i'm not.

uh, sorry, if that makes no sense, but what i mean is, u might know more than u think, and just not try.

but yeah, focus on what ur good at and show it. we all have insecurities. justt alk to him about it.

Answer 6

i'm sort of the same way. when i was in high school i had a friend and we would always sit together at the table with other friends. and EVERYTIME report card or progress reports come up, she was the first to brag about how really good she did, she would always say "well i got an A in that." i mean she was good in math and i barely died in math.

you didn't get good grades, but your bf did. how can you not be upset. its understandable. but its bad when that jealousy gets the best of you.

but whats the point in being offended just becuase he purposely chose to do well? would you rather he fail every class to make you feel better.

let this inspire you to do better next time. both of you are good at different things.

Answer 7

I have noticed allot of this type of behaviour in the g*y people I work with.they ask my opinion and then get offended when I answer.Allot of the time they try and force their sexual ideals or questions on me and demand I answer with what they want to hear.If I answer truthfully or logically they call me a homophobe or hatter.Its got to the point I feel discriminated against.I am very uncomfortable in the break room but feel I have no rite to ask them to stop forcing me to listen to their s*x talk.None of the strait people talk about sexual stuff in mixed company because it not appropriate.

Answer 8

Its ridiculous that you feel offended that your bf gets such good grades. You should feel proud. Not everyone is book smart, or even if they are, doesn't necessarily mean they will be good at school. We all have different things that we are good at. You shouldn't feel stupid.  

Answer 9

No you have no reasons to be offended. Sounds pretty d**n stupid to me to be honest.

Maybe if you put as much effort into your work as you do getting offended by such petty things like this, your grades would be great.

Answer 10

I have an interesting idea to solve your dilemma! Try applying yourself and make good grades! There is little in school that if you study hard, you cannot master. If you prefer to sit back, make average to poor grades, then you have no one to blame but yourself. Would you prefer your boyfriend stop making good grades to make you feel better about yourself? I am not trying to hurt your feelings at all. I am suggesting you think long and hard about what you have written, take a good look at it, then tell me what you think about yourself. Instead of looking for the lowest common denominator, strive to be the highest in the pack...it takes work, but it is worth it in the long run. If you do not learn all that is necessary to get a good job NOW, you will never learn it, and you will never get a good job. You may not like my answer, but it is really very kind, I care about you, and I hope you carefully read what I have written. This has nothing to do with your boyfriend...it has to do with you. Boyfriends come and go, but knowledge is forever...learn now what you are being taught. If you do not, you will hate yourself in the future. I wish you luck and love in life, Goldwing

Answer 11

well for one thing, work harder in english class, you have horrid spelling.

work hardER in every subject or if you rather just focus on what you're good at.

and don't be jealous, be proud of him. just tell him to stop bragging, or ask him to help you study and give you little tips.

and i think it's rather idiotic to feel offended that another person is smarter. why the h**l would you take offense to that?? would you rather he stooped down to your level and fail a few classes to make you feel better? that's really low