Should i file for child Support?

Question

I am currently 5 months pregnant with my first baby. My ex left me and decided he wanted nothing to do with me. As far as I know, he has no job..well his job is selling drugs(Marijuana & Ice)...yes i know I was such a fool. I havent heard from him since March and really dont care...he's not a good person. A lot of my friends keep telling me I should file for child support....but how? he has no 'real' job.

Answer 1

They will make him get a job or he will be put in jail.

Answer 2

it doesnt matter if he has no real job. when you file for child support he will have to get one or he will go to jail! and yes you should most definitely file for child support! this is his baby to and you should not just let him walk away. make him man up and face the consequences! you go girl!!

Answer 3

No, don't file for child support.  Don't even put him on the birth certificate.

Answer 4

Yes he is financially responsible for the upkeep of his child, no matter how he obtains the money.

Answer 5

you can still file they will make him pay still but you cant file until you have the baby

Answer 6

Like all the others - I say YES .... this is NOT YOUR MONEY but money that is going to make the child's life more stable.    It is really not your decision to make; it is child support - not ex-girlfriend support.

I'm glad you mention that looking back you see hooking up with him was a mistake; we all make mistakes, just work so that you don't repeat it and try to instill in your child better values than his/her father has.

Good luck - tough times ahead for you; make sure you walk with self-pride and be a good human; don't go down to the gutter when you have a bad run of days because you can have a great future if you overcome this.

Answer 7

Yes, definitely file for child support.  He may have to attend job training courses and/or look for a job....he may also have to report this to someone who keeps track, so they know he is looking for work....

You don't know what employment he may have down the road and what his income may be, so I'd file for sure.....

My daughter's father had no "real" job either....he was self employed and he told the agency he could only pay $100.00 a month....they looked at his taxes and stuff.....but I still got something....anything is better than $000......

You sound like you are a nice, decent person who has a good head on her shoulders.  Good luck with your pregnancy and with the baby.

Answer 8

yes you should file but if you know for shore he isn't going to get a job you should file TANF  and please file for custody of your child here in Va when a child is born it is under both parents unless one files for custody so please file for custody just in case he desides to come back and want the baby i'm not sure how it works where you live but check an make sure now is the time to make sure you an your child are ok.....

Answer 9

File for child support. Then be court order for him to pay child support. Also be court order for him to find a job and get one has well. If he doesn't pay they take away his driver license and even jail time has well.

Answer 10

Doesnt matter if he has a "real Job" or not....You need to file for child support. They can determine what he should be able to make and then set up what they think he should pay. Does that mean you are going to get anything? Maybe not soon. But he will start building up arears and once he does get a "real job" they will go after him for everything he owes.

Answer 11

always file for child support if he wins a lotto receives an inhertitance gets in a car accident and collects a bundle you are entitled to child support with interest  my ex didnt work but a relative died and left him 250,000 state welfare got him and i got a check for 65,000 file the paperwork! its free and easy

Answer 12

i would file for it anyway because he will eventually have to pay everything he owes you and he needs to realise that he cant just get someone pregnant and escape without any responsibilities. good luck to you, you sound like yyou will be much better off without him

Answer 13

Unless he has a real job, I wouldn't file, if I were you... I wouldn't want his drug money.

Answer 14

If you sue for child support, they will look at his income and decide what % you will get.  If he has no job, they will get on him about getting a job.  If he doesn't, he will eventually go to jail for failure to pay.  Or eventually possibly even placed in a half way house and be allowed only to go to work.  

I have been through this before.  Taking him for child support would probably actually be good for him.  Maybe he will get a job and get his life straightened out and stop hustling.

Good luck to you.

Answer 15

File you never know when he might get a job try to keep track of him for this purpose only you are better off with out him if you file with your srs they will help you out

Answer 16

Well if you file for child support and even if he never has a legit job to pay child support--the debt will accumulate.  This will mean that he could go to jail, any time he has a legit job you would get paid, and after a certain amount you can sue and/or he loses privileges (like his passport).

The reason you would not want to make him pay child support is maybe you should take his parental rights away and then you don't have to worry about your child being influenced by a poor role model of a dad.

Congrats to you and for being strong!

Answer 17

You can, you may not get anything for a while, but when they take his drivers license away he might pay attention and get a job, maybe, maybe not but it will be in place if he does get a job. You can make it on your own if you really try, I did it alone usually without child support with 4 kids working full time, but all your energy has to go to the baby, forget about your social life ecxept maybe once in a while and you can make it. Good luck. BTW: They may say they need to establish paternity with a blood test.

Answer 18

It doesn't matter you should still file for child support.  He is "REQUIRED" to give you money for his child.  Even though he doesn't work...he will "owe" you money for each year that goes by.  So when he does start working...gues what?  He will have to back pay...his income tax will be all yours until he gets up to date on his payments...tax rebates like we had this year....will go to you.  Anything coming from the government will be redirected to you.   I believe if he owes a certain amount they can arrest him...if they see he is not trying to get a job...so DO IT!!!

Answer 19

I would go thru the motions to file.  That way he's in the system and if he ever does get a "real" job, you'll get some compensation.  They will track what is owed to you and he'll have to pay in arrears!!

Answer 20

File for them and he's got to pay, eventually if he gets a job they will take them directly from his pay check.

Answer 21

yes you should its also his responsibility....these days when prices keep getting higher and higher you need a lil bit of help...

Answer 22

You usually have to wait until the baby is born before you can file for support. Then you call your county or city's domestic court (in Virginia its called Juvenile & Domestic Relations) and find out how you go about filing for child support. The intake officer will tell you all the things you'll need to do in order to file the necessary paperwork. Even if he doesn't have a real job, the judge can impute minimum wage to him (meaning, if he's not disabled or whatever, the judge can say that he--the father--has the ability to be earning minimum wage and can use that as the basis for the father's pay when he calculates how much he has to pay in support). Even if the father doesn't have any income after the support is entered, it can be monitored and the more he gets in debt, the worse off for him it is. He can lose his license or even go to jail for failing to pay child support.

Answer 23

Well, you have a choice and there are  consequences for each:

  You could file for child support, and eventually there will be a payout (he can't run forever, even if he sits in jail)  Whether on his taxes, or whatever, he will pay.  Anyway, by filing for child support you make it positive that this is the child's father and he may be, or get, custodial rights to the child (which I doubt he cares about)  Be careful with this choice.

  The second option is not filing...he will not have custodial rights but you will be on your own.  Prehaps a life without him is better for and the baby.