Should i get a husband so my son has a father figure in his life??

Question

i have been worried about my boy. he has been hanging out with a questionable BFF, wanting to go to rock concerts at night, and wanting to do unmentionable things to his hair. i think he may need a father figure in his life. his father ran out on us 23 years ago right after he was born. it's just been me and my little man against the world. things were great for a while, but i guess there must come a time in parenting when all parents want to hit themselves and pull out their hair. do you think a father figure would help him? i don't even date or leave the house so i haven't a clue how to find a husband. i need all mature input. thanks all.

Answer 1

Just get a father figurine. SMC makes them. Plus you can mark them up 500% for your customers.

Answer 2

Desperate times call for desperate measures!

  Encourage your "little man" to practice unsafe/unprotected s*x.  Tell Him you'll allow it in the home; just take 'em to His bedroom.  One after another, after another.

   Eventually, He'll knock one (or more) up and that'll leave Him with responsibilities that will take up most of His time (and money).

   This is a sure-fire way to stop the stuff He's doing now, with a child/children to take care of, and possibly a girlfriend too.

Answer 3

hello i think yes but also if it's not going to affect him about his original father that his Friends might make a big deal out of it. So if you get someone you should get someone whose going to really love the both of you but again it si good thing to have all your parents hey and good luck hope you find the suitable one

Answer 4

At 23, you can't change the cargo after the ship has left the port!  If he is just going to concerts and tricking his hair, that is not bad.  At least he isn't doing excessive tattoos, doing drugs and still living with you refusing to get a job.  

If he is still dependent on you, throwing him to the street and telling him to make it on his own is about the only good "fathering" you can do now.  Also tell him you are not good for bail money nor attorney fees while you are it.

Answer 5

no its like you would just be looking for a guy to use him to stable your son when your the mother you take that role and do what best for him. And wanting to go to rock concerts and wanting to be unique isnt necessarily a bad thing. Maybe you just need to talk to him instead of assuming things

Answer 6

No please dont try and find a husband to be a father figure for a twenty three year old man because its too late now.

perhaps you may want to find a man you love.

Answer 7

I don't think he would go for getting a girl pregnant udontnome.

He seems more well..... more"responsible" then that.

That's the best way I could put it. And trust me it is sugarcoated with confectionery sugar, brown sugar, white granulated sugar, chocolate sauce, whipped cream and jimmies... If you know what I mean;)

Answer 8

First you go to the husband store..... oh maybe your 23 year old son could take you ....maybe even help you pick out the new daddy - make sure you check the expiration date.......  

Answer 9

your son is an ADULT, not a child!!

leave him alone , let him be.

sounds like YOU have the problem, not your son.

Answer 10

Its kinda a late to be applying at the Father Store. Father Stores have minimum age limit if you have children, Its <one year, and the top limit is <16. Its hard for a Father if the child has rechead their 16th birthday.

I would suggest a a person from the school you regulary attend on Sundays. Since you are a regular Church member, they know you and can help you.

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Answer 11

No.

You don't have to get married to have a father figure.  This could be anyone, even you.  

Talk to him and listen to him.  Get involved in his life.  

Marrying the wrong guy right now might just make it worse.

Answer 12

I agree that its hard to face that your little man has been growing up. But he's old enough to know whats best. I think forcing yourself to get married to have a father figure for your son is a weird excuse. I dont think you should i pretty much think that you should do whats best for you too. It's also wrong to get married just for your son and not for yourself  

Answer 13

No I don't think he needs another man in his life! In fact it may make matters worse!

Send him to church, preferably catholic.  

Answer 14

your son seems old and he most likely knows what hes doing just learn to let him live his life but you should go out with friends and meet new guys enjoy your life too.. remember that no ones getting out of this world alive anyways so live your life the way you want it and to the fullest!

Answer 15

Yes. You should find a husband on Yahoo Personals. Yahoo solves all problems. We need Yahoo. Yahoo loves us all.

Answer 16

No,

Don't try to get in an relationship for your son's sake. If you get in one it's because you want it. Other than that your son is normal. Every child goes a phase and get over it. Trust your son and keep a good communication between both of you and it will be alright.

Keep it 2

Answer 17

wait, so your son is 23?

there is no more "little man" in your life, if I'm understanding it correctly. If he's that old, than you shouldn't be caring about the fact he's having a life. What's wrong with rock concerts?